Getting over a break up?

[russycarps]

So says he. She may have been screaming "I f**cking hate you, stop watching me shit" for some time plus others yet he really hasn't taken these hints as something is wrong and in his head laughs "funny little thing". Then bam she's gone.

Not saying that couchy just a point of view. I still don't like her for kicking bunnies

That's a fair point.

I pity the poor girl who goes out with couchy next. She'll be in the bathroom cleaning her teeth only for him to burst in with a turtles head poking out, reversing towards the toilet like it's the most natural occurrence in the world.

[fred quimby]

I wonder if he suggested a Cleveand Steamer and that was the final straw

[feral chile]

I wonder if he suggested a Cleveand Steamer and that was the final straw

I'm trying to resist looking that up, I know I'd regret it.

[fred quimby]

I'm trying to resist looking that up, I know I'd regret it.

you would

[feral chile]

Anyway, I couldn't find anywhere that Couchy had actually said she had broken up with him out of the blue.

Edited November 7, 2014 by feral chile

[kaosmark2]

I'm trying to resist looking that up, I know I'd regret it.

Definitely.

[jump]

I wonder if he suggested a Cleveand Steamer and that was the final straw

I've just remembered I had (jokingly) demanded a bumpkin from my girlfriend last night.

[feral chile]

I've just remembered I had (jokingly) demanded a bumpkin from my girlfriend last night.

I'm not looking that up either.

[fred quimby]

I've just remembered I had (jokingly) demanded a bumpkin from my girlfriend last night.

[jump]

I'm not looking that up either.

But it has such an innocent sounding name!

Edited November 7, 2014 by jump

[russycarps]

Anyway, I couldn't find anywhere that Couchy had actually said she had broken up with him out of the blue.

I must be honest I cant remember a single thing about the OP now.

[Bisque]

I also don't think it's helpful to imply that there may have been little things Couchy was doing to upset/ignore her that he might focus on as a source of regret.

You're probably right. I moved to Leeds, no friends or job (won some money off Absolute Radio & get a second job doing evenings at a lovely pub) but struggled to get work up there. We went travelling for a month so funds have always were always a bit low. Used to love going out to restaurants & trying out cocktail bars, perhaps I just couldn't provide enough.

[feral chile]

You're probably right. I moved to Leeds, no friends or job (won some money off Absolute Radio & get a second job doing evenings at a lovely pub) but struggled to get work up there. We went travelling for a month so funds have always were always a bit low. Used to love going out to restaurants & trying out cocktail bars, perhaps I just couldn't provide enough.

If you don't know what went wrong, please try not to beat yourself up about it. There's not really any point blaming her or yourself.

Edited November 7, 2014 by feral chile

[russycarps]

so, all that anger (from you) was all because of an imagined scenario

what an effin' waste of time russy

Don't worry I've re-read the first few pages now, my memory was correct and all my posts have been applicable.

[atomised]

It's always tough making a move like that and then struggling to find work.

[feral chile]

Don't worry I've re-read the first few pages now, my memory was correct and all my posts have been applicable.

Where was it then, I couldn't find it, another poster described their experience, I couldn't find anything about Couchy's experience other that that she might have met someone else, then another post whereby she hadn't, then another where he thought she might have.

Edited November 7, 2014 by feral chile

[Bisque]

My life is a mess!

Edit: I bumped into her with the same bloke twice, she denied anything going on, but he had been staying over on the sofa at hers on multiple occasions according to her. The first time I shouted hello & she kept walking with him & ignored me. She put him in her flat then came & spoke to me.

Second time she sent him walking on to work & turned round for a chat.

Can't help but get suspicious.

Edited November 7, 2014 by Couchy

[atomised]

It's not a mess. Putting distance between you is a positive step. I've had that very situation in the past and whilst anything suspicious being denied I'm convinced to this day that something was going on.

[feral chile]

My life is a mess!

Edit: I bumped into her with the same bloke twice, she denied anything going on, but he had been staying over on the sofa at hers on multiple occasions according to her. The first time I shouted hello & she kept walking with him & ignored me. She put him in her flat then came & spoke to me.

Second time she sent him walking on to work & turned round for a chat.

Can't help but get suspicious.

atomised is right, you'll cause yourself more pain wondering about it. you're better off getting yourself where you can't see it.

[lost]

You're probably right. I moved to Leeds, no friends or job (won some money off Absolute Radio & get a second job doing evenings at a lovely pub) but struggled to get work up there. We went travelling for a month so funds have always were always a bit low. Used to love going out to restaurants & trying out cocktail bars, perhaps I just couldn't provide enough.

it is this then...

agree with this.. a huge amount of friends seemed to go through breakups in their late 20's to early 30's as their girlfriends switched from guys who were fun/interesting/exciting to provider types,

In my experience if she's now texting regularly 3 weeks later its possible the new guy was just playing along to get laid and now a long term relationship maybe doesn't look as attractive to him so she's looking for a plan B (you) to fall back on. Take the advice in this thread and stay strong and cut all ties.

[kaosmark2]

You're probably right. I moved to Leeds, no friends or job (won some money off Absolute Radio & get a second job doing evenings at a lovely pub) but struggled to get work up there. We went travelling for a month so funds have always were always a bit low. Used to love going out to restaurants & trying out cocktail bars, perhaps I just couldn't provide enough.

If you think there's any chance money had anything to do with it you're better off out.

Y'know, unless it's because you were stealing all her money to spend on crack. Then it's probably your fault.

[fred quimby]

Man first I don't like her for Kicking Bunnies

Now I find out Couchy has been stealing her Money for Crack

Not sure what I feel anymore.

[t8yman]

My life is a mess!

Edit: I bumped into her with the same bloke twice, she denied anything going on, but he had been staying over on the sofa at hers on multiple occasions according to her. The first time I shouted hello & she kept walking with him & ignored me. She put him in her flat then came & spoke to me.

Second time she sent him walking on to work & turned round for a chat.

Can't help but get suspicious.

Jesus christ Couchy, of course "nothing was going on".

Without knowing either of you - that post said more about the situation than anything else in this thread. If she believes that conducting her life in that way should be acceptable to a loving partner, she is massively deluded.

Fucking move on son. When she dumped you, she did you the biggest favour anyone has ever done for you.

One thing that hasn't been mentioned (i dont think?) - how old are you both?

[LondonTom]

My life is a mess!

Edit: I bumped into her with the same bloke twice, she denied anything going on, but he had been staying over on the sofa at hers on multiple occasions according to her. The first time I shouted hello & she kept walking with him & ignored me. She put him in her flat then came & spoke to me.

Second time she sent him walking on to work & turned round for a chat.

Can't help but get suspicious.

As others said, really best not to think about it to much. Will only eat away at you.

Just pretend she's joined decided to join a convent instead!

and its not a mess, its just not going exactly to plan for you right now, a minor bump in the road

PS. Pretty glad I wasn't work today reading this thread, don't think i could have held the laughter in!

Edited November 7, 2014 by LondonTom

[Bisque]

LondonTom you've met her two or three times. I hope its not you!