Getting over a break up?

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I've given up on Romance to be honest. I'll just find someone vaguely decent looking to have kids with at the moment. Be easier as i get older, as the older ladies will be in the same boat.

I now realise that I squandered years being with the wrong women. What horrifies me most is that I wasted their finite number of years on this planet. If you settle for somebody just to have their company, rather than being alone, then you will still never be truly happy, and you'll be treating another human unjustly.

If you want 'true' happiness then it's shit or bust - you need to find love.

[Bisque]

If you want 'true' happiness then it's shit or bust - you need to find love.

Are you saying you haven't had the best experiences & times with your partners?

Edited December 3, 2014 by Couchy

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

Are you saying you haven't had the best experiences & times with your partners?

No, I have indeed had many a happy time with ex girlfriends, and indeed thought I loved them at the time. It's just that I have now met my soul mate. I can't really explain, but it's another dimension entirely. It's beyond anything I had ever known existed. I have previously felt unhappy in my soul for decades. This unhappiness has been taken away because I've met my soul mate. I'm just trying to say to zahidf (and anybody else) that they shouldn't settle for something inferior to that, as they'll still not be happy if they do so. I might be wrong, but in my heart of hearts, I don't think so.

[fred quimby]

i seem to have first great dates, but then no follow up from the lady for a second date.

Ouch - That's gotta make you think

[fred quimby]

If you want 'true' happiness then it's shit or bust - you need to find love.

I normally go for the Bust

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I normally go for the Bust

Yes, I hadn't seen the 'tradesman's' implication in my post. I salute your deviancy - no, not in that way you pervert. lol

[t8yman]

I've given up on Romance to be honest. I'll just find someone vaguely decent looking to have kids with at the moment. Be easier as i get older, as the older ladies will be in the same boat.

Oooh, that seems terribly defeatist.

makes me realise how lucky I am, I went through a few wild years from 19 to 24, then met my wife. And the old cliche rings true for me, I just knew she was the one for me from the first 2 days, the rest is a hugely long story, and one of massive coincidence and chance that finally led to us meeting back up in the UK (we met in greece, for only 2 days and didn't exchange details for various reasons). 22 years later we couldn't be happier.

[Bisque]

What are peoples views on career vs relationships? It must be a really tough choice.

[grumpyhack]

I don't see why one should exclude the other.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I don't see why one should exclude the other.

Probably more right than wrong on civvy street, but if it's your desire to join one of the armed services (especially The Navy) then Couchy's question can be seen to have more pertinence, in my opinion.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

What are peoples views on career vs relationships? It must be a really tough choice.

It wouldn't be a tough choice for me. If the relationship was right I'd much rather take that over a career. At the end of the day I'd like to look back and know that I decided to spend the finite time I have on this planet, sharing it joyfully with someone. To me the opposite ie choosing a career above a relationship, wouldn't mean anything to me at the end of the day. I've never really had a career, so to speak, but was very good at my job. Being good at it was important to me in an honour to myself kind of way. However, it was never 'all important'. As far as work goes - the graveyard is full of people who thought they were indispensable and the best.

I'm not sure how your Navy thing is going, and not sure how long one has to sign up for. If, say, it's only 5 years, then maybe you could do the Navy thing and then do the serious relationship thing after. Just a thought. If truth be known, your dilemma is a difficult one. No need to answer me on here but what does your heart and soul tell you what would be right? If it's heavily leading you in one direction, then you may really regret not going in that direction.

Sorry that the above is a bit wishy washy, it's just that there's probably no set universal answer to the question you pose.

Hope you are doing OK.

[Bisque]

Hope you are doing OK.

Doing ok but since Thursday I've been bombared by calls & she has even text my father (moved back home temporarily). I just want to be left alone. & I've got cocking jury duty on my birthday!

[Katster]

Ok, fair enough. She's a dick.

[feral chile]

What does she want?

I don't understand what she's doing.

[oneeye]

Tell her to fuck off!

[atomised]

Couldnt have put it better myself oneeye

[Bisque]

I'm ignoring the calls. I think its due to my friend asking if I want to join him on a jolly to Thailand on facebook, although I have blocked her.

I could do with a holiday to get away tbh.

[oneeye]

Couldnt have put it better myself oneeye

Sometimes enough is enough, women eh.........

[Katster]

Go on the holiday!

[oneeye]

I'm ignoring the calls. I think its due to my friend asking if I want to join him on a jolly to Thailand on facebook, although I have blocked her.

I could do with a holiday to get away tbh.

What you could do with is a good shake ffs, get over it and move on, oh and tell her once and for all to do one.

You can't keep going on like this Couchy, though it does keep this thread going. You're better than all this bollocks, and you know it, so just get on with it and live your life

[Bisque]

Ok, I'll see if I can sod off to Thailand on the cheap after my interview. Plenty of American girls & lady boys to take my mind off all this.

[oneeye]

Ok, I'll see if I can sod off to Thailand on the cheap after my interview. Plenty of American girls & lady boys to take my mind off all this.

Just don't bring a bride back on the rebound

[Bisque]

Just don't bring a bride back on the rebound

Well last time I broke my hand falling on a toilet & found this

[oneeye]

Well last time I broke my hand falling on a toilet & found this

Maybe stick to something a little closer to home and take in a good Thai restaurant

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I'm ignoring the calls. I think its due to my friend asking if I want to join him on a jolly to Thailand on facebook, although I have blocked her.

I could do with a holiday to get away tbh.

I've been to Thailand a few times. It's a magical place, especially if you go off the beaten track. It's the flaura , fauna and culture that you need to concentrate on. Forget the other shite.

Wish I was going with you.

All the best.