Things that ur happy about

[feral chile]

what paper is that from?

I've got no doubts that the whole thing is made up. No one of the age that would have a 17 year old son would be so feckin' stupid to think that, let alone write a letter to a newspaper saying it.

I don't know, one of my son's schoolmates was kicked out of home during his A Level years for being gay. He ended up sleeping on his best mate's sofa after the family took him in.

If you're prepared to show 'tough love' in this way, making your son homeless during his education, I'm presuming it's because you think you're going to 'bring him to his senses'.

The logic behind it escapes me otherwise.

(He was an outstanding student, as well )

Edited November 20, 2013 by feral chile

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I don't know, one of my son's schoolmates was kicked out of home during his A Level years for being gay. He ended up sleeping on his best mate's sofa after the family took him in.

If you're prepared to show 'tough love' in this way, making your son homeless during his education, I'm presuming it's because you think you're going to 'bring him to his senses'.

The logic behind it escapes me otherwise.

(He was an outstanding student, as well )

It's so sad to hear of this sort of situation. How can any parent kick their son out of home for being gay? I bet it was the father that did the kicking out, as oppossed to the father and mother acting as a team unit. It shows a level of immaturity I'd not want to flaunt in public.

[kaosmark2]

It's so sad to hear of this sort of situation. How can any parent kick their son out of home for being gay? I bet it was the father that did the kicking out, as oppossed to the father and mother acting as a team unit. It shows a level of immaturity I'd not want to flaunt in public.

You'd be amazed what stubbornness can do. Lots of parents hate admitting their values/they are wrong, particularly in front of/to their children, and it leads to a degree of hard-headedness that just develops and escalates until it's completely divorced from reason. Parents can quickly start doing and saying horrible things to their children that can't ever be taken back.

[eFestivals]

Parents can quickly start doing and saying horrible things to their children that can't ever be taken back.

and no kid has ever done it the other way round.

*stamps feet and storms off to his room*

[kaosmark2]

and no kid has ever done it the other way round.

*stamps feet and storms off to his room*

Oh yeah I'm not denying that, but it's different when there's a position of power.

[eFestivals]

Dunno is posting this here is tempting fate....

I'm happy about my newly rebuilt and non-leaky shower.

So now it's going to leak on me again, isn't it?

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

....?

our eldest daughter had 2 friends (1 boy, 1 girl) who were kicked out of their home when they 15 years old, both from single (mother) parent families (both were the only children too...). It wasn't for being gay, it was just that the mothers couldn't handle them anymore. Both lovely kids. We took them in - it was separate occasions - and they're both very happy now.

I don't doubt that there are situations where a mother has thrown a child out. Loads of instances I'd imagine. I'd still wager that in this instance it's the dad that's the driving force.

[feral chile]

Oh yeah I'm not denying that, but it's different when there's a position of power.

Yes it is. And parents choose to have their children, then complain when they can't mould their children to fit their expectations. Children just find themselves in the family they're born into.

I just find it extraordinary that parents with an intelligent, gifted child, choose to deprive themselves of the opportunity to be proud of their child, and punish them for their sexuality instead.

It's ultimately their loss, and it's a tragedy all around.

[grumpyhack]

At yet another progress meeting today the Bastard Builders have promised that they will have completed the inside work on our kitchen/bedroom extension by the end of the month - only two weeks behind schedule.

So, by November we should have a proper working kitchen and will be able to cook proper food as opposed to living on Microwaved meals.

Mind you they've missed every completion target date so far and I'm fed up with seeing flying pigs.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

At yet another progress meeting today the Bastard Builders have promised that they will have completed the inside work on our kitchen/bedroom extension by the end of the month - only two weeks behind schedule.

So, by November we should have a proper working kitchen and will be able to cook proper food as opposed to living on Microwaved meals.

Mind you they've missed every completion target date so far and I'm fed up with seeing flying pigs.

Maybe you should have used a contract with a penalty clause in it for failure to complete on time. That tends to get contractors to adhere to schedule.

[TheGayTent]

What are the reasons for the delay? Or what reason(s) have your builder given for the delays?

[eFestivals]

ten years in Bristol

(made wise of the fact by it being ten years since England won the rugby WC, as I moved here the day before that)

[eFestivals]

and with a double-dose of happiness today, i'm extremely happy about the replacement fixed-rate mortgage rates I've just been quoted - so good that I can save over 10% on what I'm currently paying while also getting that fixed rate for the next 5 years.

(I could save nearly 20% with a 2 year fixed rate mortgage, but with just about everyone expecting at least a 1% rise in around 2 years, it seems daft to put myself at risk of big increases in 2 years time).

[TheGayTent]

and with a double-dose of happiness today, i'm extremely happy about the replacement fixed-rate mortgage rates I've just been quoted - so good that I can save over 10% on what I'm currently paying while also getting that fixed rate for the next 5 years.

(I could save nearly 20% with a 2 year fixed rate mortgage, but with just about everyone expecting at least a 1% rise in around 2 years, it seems daft to put myself at risk of big increases in 2 years time).

You could save 20% by moving to a 2 year fixed rate? Your mortgage must be extremely small or you were on a ridiculously expensive rate up to now then.

[eFestivals]

You could save 20% by moving to a 2 year fixed rate? Your mortgage must be extremely small or you were on a ridiculously expensive rate up to now then.

it'll be small against your London standards, yep. Not all of us glory at earning a high salary but which impoverishes us by a greater amount via the circumstances that comes with it.

2 years ago when this mortgage was started was the very bottom of the market, so there wasn't much in the way of options at that time. The rate was high - but only compared to what was not available to people in our circumstances.

But hey, by your own criteria, you over-paid for <insert random goods here>, because you could have got it far cheaper if you'd gone to China to buy it.

Edited November 22, 2013 by eFestivals

[eFestivals]

PS: the best interest rate we could get today is over 40% less than the best interest rate that was on offer to us two years ago.

That's largely the result of better financial circumstances for the housing market - because of the massive subsidies currently being given by the we're-against-all-socialism-unless-it-buys-us-votes govt.

Edited November 22, 2013 by eFestivals

[TheGayTent]

That seems to have hit a nerve, I'm not sure why?

Simple maths suggest it couldn't be a big mortgage to get that sized percentage reduction. Or alternatively, it was a dreadful rate in the first instance. Or perhaps a bit of both.

You seem to have taken the comment as a personal insult, I'm not sure why? As you correctly point out, the particular mortgage product anyone has is dictated largely by the mortgage market of the time.

For the nth time, I don't live in London.

[eFestivals]

That seems to have hit a nerve, I'm not sure why?

Not at all. I'm just pointing out what worthless bollocks you're talking.

All mortgages are circumstances-dependent. Without you knowing our circumstances, you have no way of knowing whether the deal we got was a good one or not.

Simple maths suggest it couldn't be a big mortgage to get that sized percentage reduction. Or alternatively, it was a dreadful rate in the first instance. Or perhaps a bit of both.

and simple but 100% accurate intelligence definitively states that you don't have a fucking clue what you're talking about.

You seem to have taken the comment as a personal insult, I'm not sure why?

says the man who has realised that he's being insulted because of his own stupidity.

For the nth time, I don't live in London.

I know. You want to live in the c**t kentryside, but instead you live in a poor imitation of London with all the same shit but none of the benefits.

[TheGayTent]

Yep clearly hit a nerve and/or got out of bed the wrong side this morning.

I made no comment about whether the deal you got was a good one for you or not.

I don't live in a poor imitation of London, I live in Kent. I would be interested in what a poor imitation of London would look like though. Kensington? Forest Hill? Ealing? The City? Bethnal Green?

You are funny.

[eFestivals]

I don't live in a poor imitation of London, I live in Kent. I would be interested in what a poor imitation of London would look like though. Kensington? Forest Hill? Ealing? The City? Bethnal Green?

pick any of the many towns in Kent that are more London than Kent.

They have all the downsides of London - high prices, traffic, a nightmare commute - without any of the benefits that a person gets by being more central.

(PS: the same applies to other parts of what-is-essentially London around any side of it).

Edited November 22, 2013 by eFestivals

[TheGayTent]

pick any of the many towns in Kent that are more London than Kent.

They have all the downsides of London - high prices, traffic, a nightmare commute - without any of the benefits that a person gets by being more central.

(PS: the same applies to other parts of what-is-essentially London around any side of it).

As I thought, a sweeping generalisation based on very little knowledge with a little bit of personal preference bias thrown in (the last part is perfectly acceptable - but you should accept that others have their own personal preferences, that just because they differ from yours, aren't wrong).

[eFestivals]

As I thought, a sweeping generalisation based on very little knowledge with a little bit of personal preference bias thrown in (the last part is perfectly acceptable - but you should accept that others have their own personal preferences, that just because they differ from yours, aren't wrong).

No, a sweeping generalisation based on solid knowledge.

There's not much that's good in the cultural wastelands that surround London.

[TheGayTent]

No, a sweeping generalisation based on solid knowledge.

Solid knowledge? On a par with, say your knowledge of Burghfield?

There's not much that's good in the cultural wastelands that surround London.

Perhaps if you walk around with your eyes and ears closed.

[eFestivals]

Solid knowledge? On a par with, say your knowledge of Burghfield?

funnily enough - no. What you got to prove during that whole burghfield thing is how little you understand how it works in the outer-'burbs, and how you don't realise you're doing the exact same again.

Perhaps if you walk around with your eyes and ears closed.

Or perhaps you can show me the large number of major cultural events that happen in the area outside of five miles from the West End and within 40 miles of the West End?

Edited November 22, 2013 by eFestivals

[TheGayTent]

funnily enough - no. What you got to prove during that whole burghfield thing is how little you understand how it works in the outer-'burbs, and how you don't realise you're doing the exact same again.

Re-writing history again?!

What was proven was that you don't know at all, an area you claimed to have knowledge of. Whilst only a visitor, albeit a very regular visitor, knows much more than you.

Or perhaps you can show me the large number of major cultural events that happen in the area outside of five miles from the West End and within 40 miles of the West End?

Or perhaps you can tell me how you can walk around places such as Dover, Margate, Tunbridge Wells, Canterbury, Chatham etc without experiencing some of the finest culture the UK has to offer.