Need help from my Glasto friends

[anoldhippie@60]

Hi, Hope all are well and looking forward to Spring and Summer. I have been my wifes carer for 13 years and although I live in a lovely part of Devon with 5 acres of land my heart is in Aylesbury. In December my wife and I seperated and I went to stay with a "friend" in Aylesbury. We have known each other for years and used to live together 40 years ago and we found each other again aand tried living together. It lasted 9 weeks. My friend has lived on her own for 15 years and after about 5 weeks she found it hard sharing her space wih someone, so I came back to Devon in February. We still want to be with each other, but in seperate abodes and see each other a few times a week. Do I leave and go where my heart is or do I think ok we tried but did not work and stay in devon. it is very strained as you can imagine being back home with my wife.

Any thoughts will be gratefully received.

I wonder if Neil will take this off.

Peace & Love to you all

[THEBOILERMAN]

Only thing i would say is this, if you are not happy in Devon don`t stay there. it should not be a case of staying with your wife because staying with your friend did`nt work out. if your hearts not in Devon with your wife the only fair thing to do is to move out and see where that takes you. (i realiase that it may be a practical thing but you must try)

why is everything i type got a line through it ?????

Edited February 25, 2012 by THEBOILERMAN

[AnnaGrant]

Sorry to hear the difficult situation the three of you are in.

Other people can offer advice, but in the end you'll make up your own mind.

Someone once said to me the person you should marry (they were quite traditional) is not the one you think you can live with, but the one you can't live without.

Edited February 27, 2012 by AnnaGrant

[grumpyhack]

Small children often ask the most deceptively simple but effective question - "Why?"

I would ak yourself the same question after each of your statements e.g. "I have been my wife's carer for 13 years" - why? "In December we separated" - Why? etc.

Hopefully you'll come up with your own answers.

Good luck - not an easy one.

[anoldhippie@60]

Thanks for the replys. I know its down to me but not haveing many people to talk to I just wanted some imput from other people who are not involved.

Love & Peace to you all

[tommmy]

Leave your wife and your friend. Find someone young, slim and blonde with a cracking pair of tits. I hope this helps. xx

[pehaw]

Do what you want to do, not what you think others would want.

[rexclark]

Do whatever makes you happy in the long run. It might not be the easiest decision but you have to do what makes you happy.

[guypjfreak]

only you know wot you really want to do .....................good luck in any choice you do take just try and be happy old son.......

[Rufus Gwertigan]

Just based on what you have posted I dont think this is exactly fair to say the least. If your marriage is over you need to break that tie and be on your way.

[anoldhippie@60]

Leave your wife and your friend. Find someone young, slim and blonde with a cracking pair of tits. I hope this helps. xx

[anoldhippie@60]

Just based on what you have posted I dont think this is exactly fair to say the least. If your marriage is over you need to break that tie and be on your way.

[Funkyfairy!]

Sorry to hear your story. It's a tough one :-(

Go with your heart, but with a lot of thought. It's exciting meeting someone from years ago, but won't always work out in the long run. Of course you care for your wife, and it will be super tough leaving, but you have done it once, so could do it again.

My Dad left my Mum 5 or so years ago, after 45 years of marriage and he moved in with a 'friend' who he had known from school. They are now married and seem happy. I was so annoyed with him at first, but life moves on and I despite all the heartache he caused I would rather he was happy (and they both are now) - than was miserable

Maybe neither are right for you, but sounds like your 'friend' is where you heart is- you just need to balls to jump !

[anoldhippie@60]

Sorry to hear your story. It's a tough one :-(

Go with your heart, but with a lot of thought. It's exciting meeting someone from years ago, but won't always work out in the long run. Of course you care for your wife, and it will be super tough leaving, but you have done it once, so could do it again.

My Dad left my Mum 5 or so years ago, after 45 years of marriage and he moved in with a 'friend' who he had known from school. They are now married and seem happy. I was so annoyed with him at first, but life moves on and I despite all the heartache he caused I would rather he was happy (and they both are now) - than was miserable

Maybe neither are right for you, but sounds like your 'friend' is where you heart is- you just need to balls to jump !

[tommmy]

I knew I could rely on you tommmy. Trouble is someone young slim and with a great pair of tits is not going to interested in an old fart like me.

[tommmy]

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[anoldhippie@60]

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[Spindles]

There is very little actual point to life. Most of it is just wasting time until you die, the older you get the more valuable each happy remaining day is likely to be and this value cannot be calculated as all of this could just end for any of us tomorrow.

Grasp what happiness you can, is what I am getting at, as sitting around thinking about what's best is just wasting time, time that events may one day lead you to regret wasting.

Edited March 1, 2012 by Spindles

[Rufus Gwertigan]

Thank you. I have been married 38 years and my wifes carer for 13 years. I just feel I want a life again.

[neilloggie]

Whatever you decide to do may feel like the wrong decision at first,but you will get over it whatever you decide to do. As they say nothing lasts forever so you may have to just let your heart rule your head.

[anoldhippie@60]

Thanks for all the helpful comments. It has been really helpful hearing other peoples take on it and it seems that most of you say I should go where my heart lies and be happy rather than feel I should stay out of duty.

Love you all.