singles thread

[sifi]

Interviewer: "So what first drew you to crack-smoking former rapist and spectacularly ugly Scouse actor, Craig Charles?!"

[Radar]

... I hate you Julian.

Anyway - time to go...

[Shinny]

love ya really

traaa

[Radar]

He was never convicted of that. In fact didn't the accusser admit to making it all up to get money at some point?

[sifi]

Having checked, I apologise... I was under the impression that he had done it (unlike a variety of Premiership footballers... err I'd better stop before the defamation lawsuits begin...!)

[Radar]

I'm sure the girl who did that was at Uni with my mate. I think. Mind you the same mate told me that my former history teacher was heir to the guiness fortune, but had turned it down because of his principles.

[worm]

Does the denial of a date to other people (friends & aquaintances) when out with a person of the opposite sex constitute a date or the beginnings of a series of dates?

[sifi]

I don't know if I'm being foolish

And I don't know if I'm being wise

But it's something that I must believe in

And it's there when I look in your eyes ........

Love is in the air!

[Goblinz]

Does the denial of a date to other people (friends & aquaintances) when out with a person of the opposite sex constitute a date or the beginnings of a series of dates?

[worm]

Is this the ex?

[rabid]

Shhh. Let's just say it's a friend of mine that needs to know.

Actually, I'm just curious.

[worm]

And will this 'friend of a friend' be coming to the Newcastle meet?

Edited October 15, 2008 by worm

[Cardboard Box City]

Interviewer: "So what first drew you to crack-smoking former rapist and spectacularly ugly Scouse actor, Craig Charles?!"

Girl: "Well, in a dirty kinda way, he was sort of cute in Red Dwarf!"

[Goblinz]

No.

As a post-modernist I like to keep worlds from colliding. Anyway, is someone going to attempt to answer my damn question?

Edited October 15, 2008 by Goblinz

[worm]

So.. was it a date in the first place?

[-pogo-]

Well that's exactly it. How do you know if it's a date or not. You don't exactly say 'shall we go on a date'. You say 'do you fancy going out'. You get on so go on another etc. But people invariaby ask if they see their friend out with someone of the opposite sex and you of course say 'no, no, it's not a date' to avoid long explanations, confusion, awkwardness, embarrassment etc.

What I'm asking, I suppose, is whether this is a common thing. Is saying this, or being asked this, indicative of the dating process. I'm curious because I don't date. I'm more the casual type having been single for so long. I can understand the logic, but I'm not familiar with the signs - hence my curiosity.

[scappaflow]

Quick question, thought I'd post this in here as it seems a bit of a ramble rather than start a new topic for such trivia.

How many posts do you need to get a wee moto thing under your avatar.

A different board I post on was 1,500!

Anyone know?

Edit.

Cancel that, see what it is now. Damn my impatience!

Edited October 15, 2008 by scappaflow

[worm]

I'd say that's dating but denying it to yourself and others to make yourself seem as if your still a freebird to do your own thing, even though there a huge chance you're going down the slippery slope of going into a relationship.

Edited October 15, 2008 by worm

[-pogo-]

Casual dating?

Rather than casual sex partner.

Hmm.

Edited October 15, 2008 by -pogo-

[worm]

Kind of. Dating at the point where it could go either way.

Edited October 15, 2008 by worm

[-pogo-]

Or the pressures of an end result/goal isn't looming?

[worm]

Yes. But you know it could come to that at one point, so deny it as dating.

Edited October 15, 2008 by worm

[-pogo-]

Anything's possible.

I think the point is that a date implies an end result/goal/expectancy/duty/roles etc. By being casual there is no expectancy. You can be honest and yourself when there is no role to play so a real relationship can emerge, be it sexual or otherwise.

Of course, some people are in love with roles and so wish to date, be in relationships etc. This just isn't me, nor is it the psychological inclination of those I am attracted to. Would be easier, but not real for me or the other person.

[worm]

I think studying human roles and behaviour realy makes things like this harder

Edited October 15, 2008 by worm

[rabid]

Anything's possible.

I think the point is that a date implies an end result/goal/expectancy/duty/roles etc. By being casual there is no expectancy. You can be honest and yourself when there is no role to play so a real relationship can emerge, be it sexual or otherwise.