singles thread

[Goblinz]

Well that's exactly it. How do you know if it's a date or not. You don't exactly say 'shall we go on a date'. You say 'do you fancy going out'. You get on so go on another etc. But people invariaby ask if they see their friend out with someone of the opposite sex and you of course say 'no, no, it's not a date' to avoid long explanations, confusion, awkwardness, embarrassment etc.

What I'm asking, I suppose, is whether this is a common thing. Is saying this, or being asked this, indicative of the dating process. I'm curious because I don't date. I'm more the casual type having been single for so long. I can understand the logic, but I'm not familiar with the signs - hence my curiosity.

[Katster]

Interviewer: "So what first drew you to crack-smoking former rapist and spectacularly ugly Scouse actor, Craig Charles?!"

Girl: "Well, in a dirty kinda way, he was sort of cute in Red Dwarf!"

[Goblinz]

Imagine, Cultseeker losing his head over a silly little girl. You are just two people going out. If you end up 'dating' you won't need to say it. If you don't you can shrug and carry on.

Just enjoy the time you spend with her, if it's making you happy.

[Katster]

Kat, Cultseeker wouldn't go on a date and certainly wouldn't get worked up about whether it was a date or not. It's one of his friends he's talking about, I wonder if the friend is called worm?

[worm]

I think denying there is an expected end result isn't being honest about the situation.

Edited October 16, 2008 by worm

[rabid]

But why would there be if you're just going out for a drink?

But you don't know if you are. You're just going out for a drink - pretext free. Romance develops. It's a result of being with someone. It's the formation of a relationship. It isn't what you intend to have.

[Katster]

Ah, the female perspective.

These are the lines I'm thinking along. And no, silly little girls don't bother me. Well, apart from my daughter like, but we're into other territory with that set up.

[worm]

Think you've answered your own question there. There's always that kind of possibility lurking at the back of your mind.

[worm]

Only this particular female's perspective I'm afraid. I can't speak for all folk with tits.

[Goblinz]

I haven't been referring to me though. I've been referring to the nature of the relationship, which can only be read by signs as otherwise you have no idea what the other person is thinking.

Strange game, which I seldom play being one who doesn't usually care and all that. Its quite interesting. Somewhat childish and compelling.

[sifi]

What with the complexities of the mating ritual you people go through, it's a miracle that the human race hasn't died out.

[worm]

Stop analysing and go for it... I mean your friend should stop analysing and go for it. Alternatively he should burn her.

[worm]

What with the complexities of the mating ritual you people go through, it's a miracle that the human race hasn't died out.

[Radar]

What with the complexities of the mating ritual you people go through, it's a miracle that the human race hasn't died out.

[Radar]

My mating ritual is usually large quantities of beer and then sex.

[sifi]

My mating ritual is usually large quantities of beer and then sex.

[Katster]

What with the complexities of the mating ritual you people go through, it's a miracle that the human race hasn't died out.

[worm]

Female optional by the sounds of it?

[worm]

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Edited October 16, 2008 by worm

[sifi]

I don't go through them anymore. I gave up a long time ago. I have no time for time wasters, if I meet someone who wants me and I want them, BONUS! It aint happened as yet though, f**k that chasing or being chased shit, that was all actually quite terrifying!!

[sifi]

That's actually my old school nihilistic ways. I'm trying out this adult-like being considered and not wanting anything approach. See how that works out.

[Radar]

Put your hand in the hand of the other person and look in their eyes, even for a second.

[Katster]

It seems to be a disproportionate amount of soul searching going on, and a fair amount of reassurance required by people these days just to pluck up courage for a date. Or clarification as to whether or not you are on a date or not. For goodness sake. Put your hand in the hand of the other person and look in their eyes, even for a second.

[Purple Monkey]

Put your hand down the pants of the other person and look at their tits, even for a second.

[sifi]

So, by 'you people' you actually meant Cultseeker's mate yes?

I agree it's not something that really needs that much consideration....but perhaps Cultseeker's mate, much like Cultseeker himself, is a little out of practice?

Edited October 16, 2008 by sifimaster