I am going to be a Daddy just before Glasto - to go or not to go?

[krisskross]

Over 70% of first births are after the due date. My daughter was born at the beginning of June this year and if id gone to glasto id have been hating it being away for so long.

Congrats and good luck and all that stuff though!

[dan8k]

Son was born 11th of June 2010, went with just my mates instead of the missus. She insisted i went as she knows how much i love it, later on in the summer she had a break of her own for a few days where i took over duties. Worked out fine, worked out better tbh.

[russycarps]

Go to the festival.

Your child is likely to be around for the next 80 years or so. The festival will not.

[Crystal Waters]

Go to the festival.

Your child is likely to be around for the next 80 years or so. The festival will not.

[willutalk]

Do you live close to the site? If you can drive back after each day do go. However if that isn't really possible it may be worth just going for your favourite day or not going at all.

[beermonster_c]

Thanks for your responses folks and thanks for the Congratulations, some interesting points to think on.

Just to update on a couple of points raised.

If the wife went 2 weeks over there is no way I would be leaving her alone, if I hadn't cancelled my ticket by then it would simply not be used by me.

Grandparents won't be babysitting in future years as some of them go to the festival with us. All being well with Baby Beermonster and tickets permitting little one will be going with us in future years.

Commuting daily is not an option as we live too far away, although going Friday to Sunday only has been suggested by me.

As I said above, appreciate you all taking them time to offer your thoughts on this.

[russycarps]

Missing 4 days of his life will not be the end of the world. If your wife is happy for you to go, and will be at her parents and well looked after, then I cannot fathom why some people are being so melodramatic with their replies.

Enjoy the festival then enjoy your baby. Life doesn't have to end when you have a child.

[arcade fireman]

I think what people are saying is that those first few days of being a father will be especially precious, as opposed to a random four days when his kid is older.

[russycarps]

3 or 4 days is nothing though. He'll miss nothing. The baby will still be there when he gets back. If she's at her parents what's the problem?

2 weeks after the birth is hardly the first precious few days either

Edited December 28, 2013 by russycarps

[scaryclaireyfairy]

pass an orange from your jap's eye that needs something doing for it every 15 minutes and sends your hormones absolutely batcrap then tell me you'd not want mrs russy to hold your hand while it was going on.

edit: apologies for the probable racism inferred from my biological terminology. it's not meant, it's drunken ignorance as to the correct word.

Edited December 28, 2013 by scaryclaireyfairy

[russycarps]

pass an orange from your jap's eye that needs something doing for it every 15 minutes and sends your hormones absolutely batcrap then tell me you'd not want mrs russy to hold your hand while it was going on.

[scaryclaireyfairy]

oh stop.

[giantkatestacks]

And would your response be the same if it was a woman asking russy? The first weeks actually are very important for bonding both one on one and as a family. I am sure her parents can look after her perfectly well, fact is I would want my husband to do it.

If it was a second or third child, the answer would be different. You just know how its going to turn out, physically or mentally. Best to commit to not going now and just go with it. I havent gone every year and its just how it is. Its not the end of the world.

[CardiffWanderer]

Totally agree. I have a two year old son and the first few weeks were absolutely the hardest, most physically and emotionally draining period of both our lives (followed by the next couple of months). I think your wife will need you there, and you will need to be there for yourself too.

[russycarps]

And would your response be the same if it was a woman asking russy? The first weeks actually are very important for bonding both one on one and as a family. I am sure her parents can look after her perfectly well, fact is I would want my husband to do it.

If it was a second or third child, the answer would be different. You just know how its going to turn out, physically or mentally. Best to commit to not going now and just go with it. I havent gone every year and its just how it is. Its not the end of the world.

[The 38 year old virgin]

Enjoying your fishing trip russy?

[russycarps]

Enjoying your fishing trip russy?

[Zoo Music Girl]

This thread is almost exactly like one like last year, which ended up with James Bolivar going up against the rest of the forum, if I remember correctly.

Miss that guy.

[Dog Burger]

Haven't read your post in full, just the title. Not a cat in hell's chance I'd even think about going. Don't really understand why anyone would.

[beermonster_c]

Does anyone have a link to the thread from last year that's referred to please? I've searched but can't find it.

[Zoo Music Girl]

I was just trying to remember what it was called. I'll have a look for you. Turned into an interesting debate!

Edit: found it!

/topic/172686-torn/">http://www.efestivals.co.uk/forums/topic/172686-torn/

And it's not actually the same to be honest as the poster's wife was pregnant rather than having actually given birth. But might be helpful!

I don't feel qualified to give advice on this, by the way, particularly since I badly want your tickets! I wouldn't go in your position but everyone's different and I think it depends on you and your situation. Congrats anyway!

Edited December 29, 2013 by Zoo Music Girl

[fewcloudy]

Missing 4 days of his life will not be the end of the world. If your wife is happy for you to go, and will be at her parents and well looked after, then I cannot fathom why some people are being so melodramatic with their replies.

Enjoy the festival then enjoy your baby. Life doesn't have to end when you have a child.

[Guest]

Go to the festival.

Your child is likely to be around for the next 80 years or so. The festival will not.

[CardiffWanderer]

I just think the most important point is his wife is fine for him to go, which everyone seems to be ignoring. Some people's responses are bordering on sexist to me, as if the silly little hormonal pregnant woman can't possibly know what she really wants in her condition.

[beermonster_c]

Thanks Zoo Music Girl, looked through the previous thread. As you say, it is a different situation, as there is no way I'll put myself in a position to miss the birth, and most of it was preoccupied with interpreting the guys relationship.