Help me to help my mate..

[psychology]

Get him to talk about his childhood!

[Felna]

I'd say he probably shouldn't be going either, for reasons well explained above.

However if you're all determined to get him into festivals, then maybe consider going with him to one of the smaller ones out there. That way he can get a feel for the vibe without forking out a lot of money only for him to really hate it and bug out after the first day.

Edited January 20, 2010 by Felna

[mike46]

Number 5's a doozy too. Can he sniff them out or something? Or hang around veggie places giving them nasty looks?

[deardo]

Sounds like he has been smoking to much to me and gone all para. Seriously though like most others have said Glasto will not be the place for him.

[DrWackadoodle]

Forcing anyone to go isn't a good idea, especially if they've got "issues". Unless your mate comes round to the idea he should stay at home and his GF should go with you guys. As you’ve no doubt read here already there are loads of people who go without their other halves either in groups or on their own.

[Spliffman]

thanks for all your replies,

a few of you seem to think that my friend has been forced into going to Glastonbury. This is not so, he told his gf that if she wanted him to go to sort it out. she did and being a man of his word he is going to go.

I listed some of his dislikes (hates) to see if anyone knows of anywhere at Glastonbury that might suit his needs.

Green fields is the place where I sugested that he hangs out but, like I said in my op he does not like veggies. He needs that sort of vibe, but without the threat of being haressed by some "earth-mother" type. Green Fields with meat would be ideal

Yes he does have some issues, but he's not a completly lost to the world. At least not yet anyways.

He has been to a few biker type rallies and quite enjoyed them, but that was a few years ago and I believe that he has regressed into himself a bit since then.

Some people have said that his gf should go it alone, we have all said this to her. But she wants to experience Glastonbury with the man she loves. Fair point..

Our travel arrangements have been altered slightly, so that if he needs an escape route it will be available to him. (he drives, so it just means that we will take 3 cars between 6 of us.)

While there I'm sure he will ok, he'll no doubt have his ebook with him. We will just leave him be and if he wants to join us he can, no presure.

Just really wanted to know if somebody knows of some place out of the way chilled, where he could hang out read his book drink coffee and get a bacon butty..

He's my best mate and in 15 years he's the only person that I've never had an argument, or even a cross word with. Just want to try and make his and his gfs festival as good as I can..

thanks once again. Have a great Glastonbury

[strudders]

Give him some Antidepressants he will be fine

[Spliffman]

Keep well away from hin , and I would not worry about him , there are worse things happening in

the world that are more important than you fretting about a mate.

Thats his g/f's perogative !

[ukslim]

I'd like to experience GF with the woman I love, but it ain't gonna happen, and I recognise that the reality would be a nightmare.

- She'd be bored by the music, but would feel obliged to stand by my side anyway

- I'd want to stay up later than her, but would feel obliged to go back to the tend with her anyway

- I'd feel obliged to go and wait outside the loos for her

- She'd be squeamish around the mud (obviously not this year - it's going to be a scorcher); it would annoy me

- etc.

Yes, we're both grown ups, and she could just go back to the tent on her own. But if that's what happens, what's the point in us both going together? Having pressured her to come, I'd feel it was my responsibility to show her a good time, even if it was to the detriment of my own good time, which it would be.

Yes, technically he's not being forced to go. But to an extent, he's been manouvered into a situation he'd rather not be in.

Ask him if he wants to be there. If he doesn't - and you don't think he'll enjoy himself - then regardless of the verbal contract he made with his girlfriend, it doesn't make sense FOR ANYONE if he goes.

If he says he wants to go, then the onus is on him not to put a downer on things. If you can do it tactfully, it might be worth reminding him of that before the fun starts.

If the worst comes to the worst, he could spend all day with a book or a newspaper at the top end of the Pyramid field, or in the King's field.

The circus and cabaret tents might be fun for him (although the cabaret tent lineup has really deteriorated in recent years IMHO)

[Red_Eye_Jedi]

Considering your lovely user name, have a few spliffs with him and watch the glastonbury dvd.. Get him proper.. Red eye?

[strudders]

why would anyone hate a random group of people like vegetarians??

[FunkyDenz]

There are lots of places that he might enjoy.

Circus field, cabaret tent, children's field (nothing like watching Bodger and Badger whilst sipping on cider), wandering around Shangri La during the day when there's no crowds, or sitting up at the Stone Circle in the sunshine, reading a book and watching the festival go by.

[ukslim]

wandering around Shangri La during the day when there's no crowds

[ivan]

I don't know you but, if for whatever reason I happened to chance upon you in some sort of destress @ Glastonbury or any other festival. I would stop & try too help out

as you say, love and peace

[FunkyDenz]

I dunno whether you've tried it, but there is NOTHING TO SEE in Shangri La during the day.

[Spliffman]

Considering your lovely user name, have a few spliffs with him and watch the glastonbury dvd.. Get him proper.. Red eye?

[Spliffman]

I'd like to experience GF with the woman I love, but it ain't gonna happen, and I recognise that the reality would be a nightmare.

- She'd be bored by the music, but would feel obliged to stand by my side anyway

- I'd want to stay up later than her, but would feel obliged to go back to the tend with her anyway

- I'd feel obliged to go and wait outside the loos for her

- She'd be squeamish around the mud (obviously not this year - it's going to be a scorcher); it would annoy me

- etc.

Yes, we're both grown ups, and she could just go back to the tent on her own. But if that's what happens, what's the point in us both going together? Having pressured her to come, I'd feel it was my responsibility to show her a good time, even if it was to the detriment of my own good time, which it would be.

Yes, technically he's not being forced to go. But to an extent, he's been manouvered into a situation he'd rather not be in.

Ask him if he wants to be there. If he doesn't - and you don't think he'll enjoy himself - then regardless of the verbal contract he made with his girlfriend, it doesn't make sense FOR ANYONE if he goes.

If he says he wants to go, then the onus is on him not to put a downer on things. If you can do it tactfully, it might be worth reminding him of that before the fun starts.

If the worst comes to the worst, he could spend all day with a book or a newspaper at the top end of the Pyramid field, or in the King's field.

The circus and cabaret tents might be fun for him (although the cabaret tent lineup has really deteriorated in recent years IMHO)

[Spliffman]

There are lots of places that he might enjoy.

Circus field, cabaret tent, children's field (nothing like watching Bodger and Badger whilst sipping on cider), wandering around Shangri La during the day when there's no crowds, or sitting up at the Stone Circle in the sunshine, reading a book and watching the festival go by.

[rexclark]

I don't think a festival is a good place for anyone who doesn't like crowds. Town centres would be a bit of a pain as well I suppose.

[LusciousLucy]

I don't think a festival is a good place for anyone who doesn't like crowds. Town centres would be a bit of a pain as well I suppose.

Edited January 20, 2010 by LusciousLucy