Some news...

[bunique]

I wonder what the statistics would be, in the western world where cleanliness and nutrition and aftercare, etc etc, aren't such an issue (as they are in some parts of the world) , for the percentage of births without complications.

I think that there are many parts of our lifestyle that create problems of their own, beyond sanitation and medication - obesity, older pregnancies, sedentary lifestyle. One has just replaced the other.

[Katster]

If it's anything like here near you Bunique you won't need to be at all tentative in asking for home birth. As long as you don't encounter any issues throughout your pregnancy they will probably encourage it. They did with me until the high BP issue and this is my first pregnancy. Would you also hire/buy a pool for at home??

[bunique]

If it's anything like here near you Bunique you won't need to be at all tentative in asking for home birth. As long as you don't encounter any issues throughout your pregnancy they will probably encourage it. They did with me until the high BP issue and this is my first pregnancy. Would you also hire/buy a pool for at home??

My friend has one she never used, but I know you can also hire with all the stuff you need quite reasonably. Only problem is we have suspended wooden floors downstairs and I've been told to check they can handle the weight of a full pool before we decide!

[Katster]

39 weeks today and its also my birthday - 34 today.

I'm not going to lie, this week has been tough. I'm tired and bored and fed up. But today has been nice.

[bunique]

Happy birthday! Whatever happens, by the time November ticks around you'll have a baby in your arms!!

[Katster]

Very true

[feral chile]

Happy Birthday!

[midnight]

Happy birthday, Kat, belated, but still.

It's only a matter of days now.....

[t8yman]

oooh, its getting exciting. Happy B'day for yesterday, and all the very best for the birth. I hope it all goes incredibly smoothly.

[Katster]

Cheers guys. I'm feeling a bit more myself again after a low week last week. The last bit is pretty horrible isn't it, even my knees are sore now, buckling under the extra weight lol. I have been quite lucky until now, remaining very mobile and independent but not anymore! At least all this frustration will hopefully help me to concentrate during labour - it's the end of all this ridiculous pregnancy nonsense, so in a way I think I might welcome the pain.

I finally got my fish tank set up for my birthday anyway (which has been a years working progress) so that's been nice. We had planned to keep marine fish but then I got pregnant so we decided tropical freshwater is probably a safer (cheaper/less time consuming) option. I don't have any fish in there yet like but I will be sticking something in soon once its ready cycled, with a view to having a decent collection of fish by next birthday lol.

[bunique]

There's definitely a psychological thing in the end of pregnancy when you would practically welcome labour with open arms because you're so fed up. Evolution at work maybe! I'm hoping it won't kick in for me until the new year when I'll have anything from 2-4 weeks left!

You probably won't remember this in the heat of the moment, but whilst in labour you will probably hit a point of "holy fucking Christ I cannot do this a minute longer!" and will ask the midwife to let you go home/let you stay in the bathroom (in my case!)/give you ALLTHEDRUGS!!/just get this bloody thing out of meeeeee. That's the point at which you will be within touching distance of meeting your baby. I wish I'd recognised it at the time, particularly as so many people have said they experienced the same thing, but instead I just thought I was being a wimp/losing the plot. Hoping next time I can channel that emotion more positively!!

[Katster]

Yup, I heard that. Think Greenfairy mentioned it here (although may have been on Facebook). I'm just hoping my high blood pressure will help rather than hinder as both the midwife and hospital have said that women with high blood pressure usually labour quickly. We'll soon see I guess!

[bunique]

Sure will!

Edited October 6, 2014 by bunique

[feral chile]

Yup, I heard that. Think Greenfairy mentioned it here (although may have been on Facebook). I'm just hoping my high blood pressure will help rather than hinder as both the midwife and hospital have said that women with high blood pressure usually labour quickly. We'll soon see I guess!

ah that explains a lot - never had normal BP until I was put on meds for it.

Not long to go now Kat

[Katster]

ah that explains a lot - never had normal BP until I was put on meds for it.

Not long to go now Kat

Not sure if they meant those already with high BP when going into pregnancy though Feral Chile, or those that develop it due to pregnancy, or indeed whether there is no difference between the two? They were certainly meaning in my case though so let's hope my body agrees with them!

Yup not long, 5 days until my due date, a week today until the sweep...

[bunique]

Throwing up Sunday, nosebleeds yesterday and today. Pregnancy is awesome.

[greenfairy43]

It's usually women with full blown pre-eclampsia who labour really quickly, almost as if your body knows the only cure is to not be pregnant any more.

Looking forward to"Some News" Katster.

Remember, keep mobile, keep an open mind & remember, Midwives do actually know what they're talking about...

xx

[greenfairy43]

Sorry to hear you're feeling so crap Bunique x

[bunique]

My midwife was super first time around! Although she was so hands off that at one point I thought she'd left and started ranting to my husband she followed our birth plan to the letter and was an absolute ocean of calm, she was great!

I actually feel okay! Baby has been kicking the crap out of me as if to say "carry on mum, I'm alright!" which has been both reassuring and uncomfortable I missed out on nosebleeds last time, they're one of my absolute pet hates, so am hoping it's just a temporary symptom!

[bunique]

Also Kat, you do realise if you go more than a few hours without posting we're all going to assume the Big Day has arrived. You may want to add www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com to your favourites

[Katster]

I've had a couple of nosebleeds and agree they are yet another thing i would add to the ever growing list of women who say they enjoyed being pregnant are idiots theory.

There have been a handful of things I have enjoyed during pregnancy:

Dan's face when he finally believed it was an actual pink line.

The 12 week scan.

Developing a cute bump.

Feeling the first little flutters.

Dan's face when he felt his first kick.

The 20 week scan.

The growth scan.

And that's it, I'd say in total that accounts for about 6 whole hours lol.

But, as everyone keeps saying, it will all be worth it and I know it will I just don't see pregnancy as an enjoyable experience and I don't understand those who do. I cant wait to be a mother though!

I will let you know on here as soon as I can but pretty sure you will all guess whenever I go quiet that its imminent. Midwife tomorrow, I have been well impressed Greenfairy since we changed from the initial centre that we weren't keen on, and with having the high BP I've already had some insight into what the hospital staff are like and they are lovely.

[Katster]

When I say women who do enjoy it are idiots I hope people realise I don't strictly mean literal idiots. I just don't get it. I don't understand. My friend came to see me today with her 5 week old baby and when my bump started wriggling she jumped up to feel it saying how much she missed it...she even had tears in her eyes?! I said she must be mad when her baby was right there next to her and she replied with 'its just not the same'.

Whaaaaaat?!

[bunique]

I can understand that to an extent for a couple of reasons: whilst pregnant it's "you and baby vs the world" - you're their sole source of protection, nourishment - you know for the most part that they are safe. I struggled a bit with baby becoming "public property" once out in the world. Hated her smelling of other people's perfume for example! I think it's one of the reasons I was so adamant to breastfeed, as it was a great excuse to have her back off visitors!

But more than that - motherhood(/parenthood) is the hardest thing I have ever done and the first 6 weeks especially... Crikey there were times we thought we were both losing the plot due to sleep deprivation, the crying, simply not knowing what the fuck we were doing. I can kind of understand that longing to have them back "in" if only for a little while! It can be pretty relentless for those first few weeks.

There's lots of wonderful bits too! But the 6 week mark seems to be a real turning point for most mums I know. I think it's because the little buggers start smiling around then!

[Katster]

Perhaps I will change my tune once its here but I doubt it. I love kids, I have disliked being pregnant but have done remarkably well with it considering. Specially as I always said I could never do it, ha.

[bunique]

I feel the same as you, I wouldn't want to swap it for a newborn! But I can understand, when you're in the midst of the initial whirlwind, wanting it all to stop for a little while and go back to being pregnant.

How are you sleeping at the mo anyway?