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  1. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    So you know it is 100% true that it is not misogynist because you know Damon Albarn's whole personality with more certainly than whether Taylor Swift writes her own songs. My 'gross generalisation as you call it' is based on all the people who were arguing back against me and they were all male. All day I have had men tell me what is and isn't misogyny because they obviously know about this stuff better than me. Think I'll avoid this section of the forum for a while until this has all died down because frankly it's exhausting.
  2. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    I think this here might be one of the differences between men and women. On something which there is a proven right or wrong answer if I wasn't 100% certain my response would indicate that. If I felt that she didn't write her own music I would probably still respond but I thought she didn't actually write them herself? I'm guessing all of you defending him would do as he did. Maybe something to think about because he was wrong. There's no shame in not knowing something whereas having to apologise for a big error is kind of humiliating.
  3. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    But given that it's completely untrue how can he genuinely believe it? If a music journalist is saying someone is a great songwriter and in the back of your mind you had a thought that they don't write their own songs, why would you state it as absolute fact. Even if I thought I knew something if someone knowledgeable about the subject was saying the opposite I'd at least question whether what I thought I knew was correct especially knowing it was being put out into the public domain. Let's be honest even those who don't see the misogyny in it think he's made himself look an arse.
  4. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    If a journalist is telling you they think someone is a great songwriter and you think they don't write at all but you don't actually really know anything at all about them then surely you'd just say I have no idea rather than say they don't write stuff. Frankly what he said is libellous. It's a completely untrue statement. It's known to be entirely untrue. If he said Oh really I didn't even know that she wrote her own stuff that would be saying what he thought but he didn't he said 'She doesn't write her own stuff' and then doubled down on it by saying cowriting isn't writing whilst praising someone else who co-writes and having spent large parts of his own career co-writing. He also said she was 'endlessly upbeat' which makes me think he may not even know who she is. There is absolutely no shame in not knowing something. There's no shame in not having an opinion on absolutely everything. He honestly would have been better saying sorry I'm not familiar with her work, I don't think I'm her target audience.
  5. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    Absolutely this. I'm a woman and for years I spouted some of this shit myself. We are products of the society and cultures that we are brought up in and that is a very patriarchal, white, rich persons culture. I have said things about the Spice Girls for example in the past which I am embarrassed by now. Only about a decade ago I probably would have been saying right on Damon stupid pop singer. Yes we will all make mistakes. I try very much to be anti-racist, anti-sexist, anti-homophobic etc because that's the world I want to live in but I'm a product of a very different kind of world and society and so I won't always get it right. I'm just glad that Taylor Swift doesn't take it and does challenge it. Good on her. She's a wonderful example for others.
  6. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    Yes I gave the quote because everyone who mentioned it in reply only used the hatred definition. It's more complex than straight out hatred. I was not and never have suggested that he hates all women.
  7. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    Because it played into an ingrained prejudice against women. I'm actually pretty busy at work today so won't have time to keep coming back to this but I think most people seem to see misogyny as hatred when it isn't it can be much more low level like just underestimating them and expecting them not to be capable of something. As many have said Damon Albarn is kind of renowned for his collaborations himself. To say co-writing is not real writing is to suggest that he thinks she gets a credit but doesn't actually do it. As a woman the straight out horrible misogyny is thankfully not encountered too often but it's the low level shit that grinds you down. The correct answer for Damon would have been sorry I'm not familiar with her work so can't really comment on it. Instead he said something incorrect which has the power to undermine her standing as a songwriter. Many other people who don't know her work could take his word as gospel and reinforce their own prejudices about her.
  8. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    Here is the full meaning of the word I think we can agree that what he said showed an ingrained prejudice against women. He didn't know but assumed something which was entirely incorrect. He assumed it based on the trope of the little pop artist who has no control of her own destiny. I'll be honest that I have a load of men telling me what is and isn't misogyny I find quite laughable.
  9. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    Correction - You think my opinion is nonsense.
  10. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    Not every comment is but the assumption that she couldn't be responsible for creating her own music is a result of structural sexism. It is a conversation as old as time that people assume female artists are somehow propped up by male producers or writers or managers. The fact that he chose to answer a question on which he clearly had a lack of knowledge with these tropes is a misogynistic response. Saying one misogynistic thing doesn't mean I think he is a misogynist who hates all women. I actually like Damon Albern's music. I have seen him live as both Damon Albarn and Gorillaz. I'd love to have seen Blur. I won't cancel him as a result but what he said was wrong. He should be called out on it and I hope he learns from it.
  11. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    No. I don't think so. Men having to have an opinion on everything even when they clearly don't have enough knowledge to have the opinion is quite commonplace. Rather than dismiss the work of a woman he doesn't know enough about and say things that are untrue he could just have been humble and admitted a lack of knowledge. Instead he chose to issue an untrue statement which is rooted in misogyny. It's a really old story to assume a successful pop artist isn't capable of creating their own stuff and that they are just a little puppet. Saying you like one other woman doesn't negate that.
  12. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    No it's not it's my opinion on the situation. He hasn't been misquoted. The long version of the quote makes it worse.
  13. gigpusher

    Taylor Swift

    Seems that it was just a typical misogynistic response. He doesn't really know her music or her but he knows she's very famous and has done stuff with collaborators so assumes that 'the little woman' can't possibly be responsible for it. He got caught out and she pulled him up on it. He spends a day getting hammered and hopefully he learns from it.
  14. gigpusher

    How do you feel?

    Bet your parents are pretty smug now. One day maybe you can be if your daughter is going through the same. I know some people are very resistant to it but a few friends and family members who had children who were poor sleepers swore by co-sleeping even if for their own sanity. One of my nieces was at school before she slept in her own bed but actually slept pretty well every night. Any time they tried to move her out all hell would break loose. Eventually she decided that she wanted to sleep in her brothers room and then wanted her own room but all on her own terms.
  15. gigpusher

    How do you feel?

    Sorry you are having a tough time. I know so many people who have had kids who say the time you are currently living through is the toughest and the world we are currently living in is tough enough for everyone. If you can try and focus on some of the positives the main one being it's just a phase and will pass and life won't always feel as tough. It's great that you recognise that it's a tough time for both you and your partner as those who really struggle tend to only see their own struggles so make sure you both take time to have a hug and say this too shall pass when things seem at their worst. Finances are a tough one too. If there's any service you have had for a while you can try and call them and see if they can give discounts. I threatened to quit Virgin Media just this morning and they took £30 a month off my bill. I was prepared to move my tv and broadband to Sky if I had to but really quite grateful not to have the hassle. Glastonbury is also a tough topic. I saw that you had pulled out of the resale and honestly a tiny part of me was envious that you have made the decision. I know the chance of tickets are quite miniscule this year and that going for them is most likely just adding another upset further down the line so in some ways you have saved yourself that agony. There will be other years and better years. When your daughter is a teenager and never wants to get out of bed and you have lost your ability to ever have a lie in just console yourself with the fact that you can go in and cry at the end of her bed then to give her a taste of her own medicine.
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