singles thread

[worm]

I don't understand why you choose to self-deprecate then. I do it too sometimes but it isn't always charming or witty or attractive - perhaps you don't care!! *shrugs*

[Radar]

But that's patriarchy too.

Edited September 30, 2008 by Radar

[hopeisimportant]

I have a date set up for friday but I don't think I really like the girl enough that anything serious would happen in the near future. I went out with her a couple of times before the summer and she is a nice girl but I don't look at her and think "I want to rip your clothes off now". (No matter how shallow that sounds I think it is an essential part of relationship.) Half of me was hoping she wouldn't text me when she was back up the road but she did and seems really keen to get things going. So what do I do? I want to text and say I don't want to see her but how can I say it in a nice way? Was thinking I should say something like I am kind of seeing someone so it wouldn't be right to go on a date but that would be totally dishonest. Nightmare.

[worm]

What would be a non-patriarchal view then?

[rabid]

I don't understand why you choose to self-deprecate then. I do it too sometimes but it isn't always charming or witty or attractive - perhaps you don't care!! *shrugs*

[worm]

that works for you, does it?!

Edited September 30, 2008 by worm

[Goblinz]

I have a date set up for friday but I don't think I really like the girl enough that anything serious would happen in the near future. I went out with her a couple of times before the summer and she is a nice girl but I don't look at her and think "I want to rip your clothes off now". (No matter how shallow that sounds I think it is an essential part of relationship.) Half of me was hoping she wouldn't text me when she was back up the road but she did and seems really keen to get things going. So what do I do? I want to text and say I don't want to see her but how can I say it in a nice way? Was thinking I should say something like I am kind of seeing someone so it wouldn't be right to go on a date but that would be totally dishonest. Nightmare.

[Radar]

A non-patriarchal view would be to have women decide what they like.

[Shinny]

Radarus Twatfaceus

what you doing???

[Goblinz]

13 years of singledom is nothing to be proud of.

Yes - in my opinion.

[Radar]

Radarus Twatfaceus

what you doing???

[worm]

They can decide what they like. But my opinion is of equal validity. It would only be patriarchy if I tried to stop them deciding what they like.

[Radar]

I think you should leave the thread.

[Shinny]

???

I am having a discussion with my dear friend Mr Worm?!

[worm]

Ohhhhh... is *that* the point of this thread?!

[Radar]

Dunno ? hehe I am having a wonderful convo with AC about Miss Big Nose - ah bitchy-ness!!!

You two better be getting along!

[Shinny]

Spozz?! She'd fit right in on this thread though by the sounds!

We're hardly going to come to blows...

[Radar]

Singledom is a lifestyle choice, not a collection of rejects*.

*well, okay it's got both.

[Radar]

I do not wish to mention her name - but yes After what she said about me I shall call her Miss Big Nose forever

Yet - you're hardly going to come to blows yet.

[Goblinz]

Never suggested anyone on here was a reject

I merely thought the thread was for cataloguing one's progress in-and-out of singledom.

[Shinny]

I was thinking some suggestion that you would use her as a toothpick, were something not likely to dribble down her legs into your mouth, would be humorous... though actually that's just a bit sick, on second thoughts!!!

I'm sure Worm agrees that the pen is mightier than the sword. And South Shields or wherever he is seems a little far to travel just for a spot of handbags at dawn!

Edited September 30, 2008 by Shinny

[hopeisimportant]

Don't call it off, see how it goes. How well do you know the girl? You may find that you like her more than you think.

[Katster]

If it was me, I'd only arrange to meet one of those people. Then if it wasn't going well, I'd try another of those people. I wouldn't try them all at once! Does that make any difference, you might ask - I don't know, but I'd feel I wasn't leading anyone up the garden path my way. I don't mean to sound so judgmental though, should have said nowt. The way you put it does sound extremely casual, innocent and uncomplicated in fairness.

I have no idea if it's perfectly normal, and as to the second bit I don't intend to sit here, all high and mighty, denouncing your conduct hun!

[Radar]

Not evryone here wants to be in a relationship, it's not very nice to start insulting them.

[Shinny]

This is a bit deep this thread innit?

Kats - I personally don't think you did nowt wrong - If you were a bloke most other blokes (apart from possible Julius) would be patting you on the back for having five. At least the lads I know!