Young,Dumb and Living off Mum BBC3

[RABun]

This chat certainly makes me feel glad I never want to have kids!

[oafc0000]

This chat certainly makes me feel glad I never want to have kids!

[oafc0000]

.

Edited August 25, 2010 by oafc0000

[oafc0000]

me too

[oafc0000]

"shake your head"..???

any clues?

[Pogues Mcgogues]

me too

[oafc0000]

I fully accept I'd be a shite dad. I'd feel so awkward talking to it.

Edited August 25, 2010 by oafc0000

[RABun]

I fully accept I'd be a shite dad. I'd feel so awkward talking to it.

[sifi]

"shake your head"..???

any clues?

[oafc0000]

nah don't be daft you cant be worse than oaf!!

just incase that is misread (I AM JOSHING WITH YA OAF!)

Edited August 25, 2010 by oafc0000

[RABun]

free cake for all!!! was the first bill passed...

Edited August 25, 2010 by RABun

[oafc0000]

i'm only voting in favour if its battenburg

[oafc0000]

The thing I also remember was how I wanted, desperately wanted her to be brought up as freely as possible, with the main rule being 'no rules!'

[Pogues Mcgogues]

I'll always remember walking out of the hospital for the first time with our first baby thinking "ok, it's real now, what the f**k do we do?"...

The thing I also remember was how I wanted, desperately wanted her to be brought up as freely as possible, with the main rule being 'no rules!'

I still look at my kids and think that I'm still partly wondering what it means to be a dad

honesty, communication, consistency, open up their minds as much as possible, don't say they can't do something unless you have a good reason, be there for them...

above all, LOVE THEM

similar to how I feel for anyone I care about really... these are my main 'foundations'

[oafc0000]

it had never occurred to you before?

[oafc0000]

you should open up your mind a bit...

no rules doesn't mean anarchy, it means having to consider things as they happen. What's wrong with them painting on their own bedroom walls?

Edited August 25, 2010 by oafc0000

[sifi]

He did answer the question. Quite succinctly, too I might add. No rules doesn't mean anarchy. Duh.

[oafc0000]

it's not particullarly difficult to explain to a kid why it's ok to do some things in certain situations, but not in others

Edited August 25, 2010 by oafc0000

[oafc0000]

you call it rules, I call it understanding respect for other people and their things...

call it a rule if you like, but for me, it isn't hard and fast, and needs re-examing most of your life

Edited August 25, 2010 by oafc0000

[sifi]

My mum used to make me write out pages of the dictionary as punishment.

[oafc0000]

My mum used to make me write out pages of the dictionary as punishment.

[ampersand]

i used to draw on other peoples walls. i was a right f**ker

[oafc0000]

i used to draw on other peoples walls. i was a right f**ker

Edited August 25, 2010 by oafc0000

[ampersand]

Did your parents say you go for it sonny... Express yourself

[oafc0000]

it is a general rule I have, which means it's good to question what are often percieved as rules as they often don't appply

I don't see what's so hard to understand

I did end up with a few hard rules, through discovering it what worked and what didn't

as I've said, the main ones are things like honest and consistency

Consisteny being probably THE main one

"I've explained to you why you can't have anything you want" (while shopping)

"but I want it"

"ok then, if it means you'll shut up, have it"

that kind of thing (for example)

that's nothing to do with a need or desire to control them

it's usually illogical. Kids do things which 'we' say is wrong, but they don't understand why and it might need explaining to them

you'd punish your kid for running into the road?