How do you feel?

[Ozanne]

12 minutes ago, crazyfool1 said:

as above ... im still a bit nervy but it definitely the right thing for me to be doing at this point.... I think id developed a mild paranoia about it ... its really weird ... wanting human contact but not wanting human contact all at the same time ..2nd day today and at points I was a little unnerved especially by colleagues who seem to act like its gone but thats their choice and im not going to able to change that so have to just look out for me in that respect .... Thanks for asking its really appreciated 

I had meant to ask mate, sorry. Glad you got through it ok, should get easier from here!

[Crazyfool01]

2 minutes ago, Ozanne said:

I had meant to ask mate, sorry. Glad you got through it ok, should get easier from here!

yep it should ... cheers  

[funkychick2007]

Brilliant news on your qualification WestCountryGirl! 👍🏻
I think any support for mental health at this time is so greatly needed! 
I hope your enjoy your new role you will have a big impact on people changing their lives and the lives of those around them! 

[Copperface]

On 7/2/2020 at 8:35 PM, crazyfool1 said:

missed a trick there  

Tourists at the leaning Tower of Pisa have to wear face masks and an electronic device which sends out signals and sounds if anyone gets within 1m

[Ozanne]

I've been feeling pretty crap the last couple of days. On Thursday my sister/nephews had been to my parents, my 2 other sisters were there too. I only find out through an Instagram story from my brother in law which shows one of my nephews going up to the sister that works in the hospital as a nurse. Apparently they stayed outside, but I don't really believe that. The sister I'm 'bubbling' with has also has workmen round this week as they are getting stuff done on the house. 

 

I know this makes me sound like a right asshole but it kind of freaks out that my nephew has been right up close to the sister thats a nurse so if I go to see them and as I'm part of their bubble play/hug my nephew that will link a chain to me from any possible infection from the hospital. I've raised these concerns and typically no one really pays attention to them; leaving me feeling like my concerns don't really matter.

 

I'm fairly close to ending this bubble and essentially reverting back to lockdown as a result. It'd probably be a good thing all round as my sister wants to take the boys to see people and can't guarantee they'll stay 2 meters apart. 

[Cream Soda]

1 hour ago, Copperface said:

Tourists at the leaning Tower of Pisa have to wear face masks and an electronic device which sends out signals and sounds if anyone gets within 1m

Nice demonstration of proper mask wearing technique there 🤣

[Cream Soda]

7 minutes ago, Ozanne said:

The sister I'm 'bubbling' with has also has workmen round this week as they are getting stuff done on the house. 

I wouldn't worry too much about this, I've had someone come to do work at my flat during lockdown and they kept their distance and it was totally fine, hopefully these workmen will do the same. 

[funkychick2007]

Ahh Sorry to hear you are feeling so crap Ozanne ! It’s really hard as the more things tht open and we get back to more socialising The harder It is going to be to stay in bubbles! The other thing  not to underestimate is the anxiety around being with other people! I don’t think you are being an asshole just trying to workout what the best thing to do is at this very strange time! 

Edited July 4, 2020 by funkychick2007
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[Crazyfool01]

28 minutes ago, Ozanne said:

I've been feeling pretty crap the last couple of days. On Thursday my sister/nephews had been to my parents, my 2 other sisters were there too. I only find out through an Instagram story from my brother in law which shows one of my nephews going up to the sister that works in the hospital as a nurse. Apparently they stayed outside, but I don't really believe that. The sister I'm 'bubbling' with has also has workmen round this week as they are getting stuff done on the house. 

 

I know this makes me sound like a right asshole but it kind of freaks out that my nephew has been right up close to the sister thats a nurse so if I go to see them and as I'm part of their bubble play/hug my nephew that will link a chain to me from any possible infection from the hospital. I've raised these concerns and typically no one really pays attention to them; leaving me feeling like my concerns don't really matter.

 

I'm fairly close to ending this bubble and essentially reverting back to lockdown as a result. It'd probably be a good thing all round as my sister wants to take the boys to see people and can't guarantee they'll stay 2 meters apart. 

its tough oz .... we all have different perceptions of what is right or wrong and what is good for us is possibly not the right thing for everyone .... once you have given your opinions and thoughts to those people though it is important I would say that you try and avoid things like that becoming an issue (things like this might hang on longer than the virus )  we all need to make longer term decisions on what is right or wrong .... my parents for example have been more lax at times than id hoped but they are adult enough to asses risk and make decisions based on that ... so against my better judgement I have to let it lie ( tough as it is ) .The bubbles will probably cease to exist within a few months anyway .. so we all need to also make steps to moving forward and hopefully safely ..... Im sure your concerns do matter but on this virus people think very differently within families so you might need to come to terms with them doing that in the long run ..... just like ive had to do with my work over the last few days but minimise risk where I can personally ... All the best hopefully it will sort out ...

[Ozanne]

Thanks guys, I appreciate the words. I understand that people are trying to deal with it the best way they can, especially with little kids. It's upsetting because it'll mean I'll end up not being able to see my nephews because of it.

 

I think a part of why I'm hacked off about it is that it seems all behind my back because they probably know I wouldn't agree with it. Hence why I see it on an Instagram story.

 

Crazyfool you are a much stronger person than me, I can't let these things go. I get on my morale high horse far too often.

[Crazyfool01]

5 minutes ago, Ozanne said:

Thanks guys, I appreciate the words. I understand that people are trying to deal with it the best way they can, especially with little kids. It's upsetting because it'll mean I'll end up not being able to see my nephews because of it.

 

I think a part of why I'm hacked off about it is that it seems all behind my back because they probably know I wouldn't agree with it. Hence why I see it on an Instagram story.

 

Crazyfool you are a much stronger person than me, I can't let these things go. I get on my morale high horse far too often.

Physically you can see your nephews ... Its just you have an increased risk ... now how much that risk is and how much that risk is being played out in your mind might actually be quite different ....The more you dwell the more difficult it becomes in the longer run ... and the more you think deeply about things probably the worse it will seem (thinkers and emotional people will be finding this tough too ) me included ... The Instagram thing might also just be a post that might have been done with minimal thought for how you felt ,but also not designed to hurt or upset you in any way ... social media posts can also be misread as we can see by many examples on here ... 

[Zoo Music Girl]

Hey @Ozanne sorry you're struggling dude. I totally get where you're coming from, but what I would say kind of echoes what @crazyfool1 above says: it's not worth falling out with your family over, especially if it limits contact with your nephews. The risk is much lower than it was so try to focus on that and just keep doing the best you can to minimise it.

I do get it though, I feel like the whole world is moving on now and me and my partner are still being cautious. It does feel weird and is hard to get over. When we went to see his parents we were so bloody careful, but I know they haven't been. It winds me up but I don't think falling out about it is worth it or a good idea at a time like this.

Just my two cents anyway

[Crazyfool01]

Strangely my mum must have sensed my posts and rang to tell me that my aunt was coming to stay in a few weeks and that it would be fine as she didn’t have the virus ... I did explain to her that she’d actually made a risk assessment on if it was safe or not and she couldn’t say for sure that she didn’t have it ... of course I’ll be nervous about it ... very much like u @Ozanne.., but it’s going to happen wether I like it or not 

[gigpusher]

On 7/3/2020 at 5:22 PM, Zoo Music Girl said:

I thought I was going to go mad without the gym but I have found online classes to be great and much better than I expected. I would recommend giving it a go. I'm sure my fitness has suffered as walking less every day despite going for walks, but I feel like the classes have helped me keep a baseline. Helps with mental health loads as well.

Hopefully just a couple of weeks until I can get back to it. Been a bit of a double whammy because one my other dog is very noise phobic and because during lockdown all the clap for carers stuff was so noisy it's escalated to the point where she won't always walk and the only walks she likes doing are little short walks in comparison to what we used to do. I've gone from averaging over 20k steps a day to being luck to hit my 10k. 

[Ozanne]

55 minutes ago, Zoo Music Girl said:

Hey @Ozanne sorry you're struggling dude. I totally get where you're coming from, but what I would say kind of echoes what @crazyfool1 above says: it's not worth falling out with your family over, especially if it limits contact with your nephews. The risk is much lower than it was so try to focus on that and just keep doing the best you can to minimise it.

I do get it though, I feel like the whole world is moving on now and me and my partner are still being cautious. It does feel weird and is hard to get over. When we went to see his parents we were so bloody careful, but I know they haven't been. It winds me up but I don't think falling out about it is worth it or a good idea at a time like this.

Just my two cents anyway

I get this completely, I feel like I'm one of the few that are sticking to it. That's probably just my perception though and it's probably more skewed the other way. I wouldn't say we've fallen out, I'm just having to reassess whether I'm at that stage that they are at. 

I was so annoyed about it on Thursday night I couldn't get to sleep till like half 1, so that probably doesn't help.

@crazyfool1 Spooky! That's a frustrating rationalisation your Mum has carried out (no offence).

[Zoo Music Girl]

1 minute ago, Ozanne said:

I get this completely, I feel like I'm one of the few that are sticking to it. That's probably just my perception though and it's probably more skewed the other way. I wouldn't say we've fallen out, I'm just having to reassess whether I'm at that stage that they are at. 

I was so annoyed about it on Thursday night I couldn't get to sleep till like half 1, so that probably doesn't help.

@crazyfool1 Spooky! That's a frustrating rationalisation your Mum has carried out (no offence).

Oh yes I get that you haven't fallen out over it, just saying try to avoid letting it get to that point as I think that wil make you feel worse.

[Crazyfool01]

1 minute ago, Ozanne said:

I get this completely, I feel like I'm one of the few that are sticking to it. That's probably just my perception though and it's probably more skewed the other way. I wouldn't say we've fallen out, I'm just having to reassess whether I'm at that stage that they are at. 

I was so annoyed about it on Thursday night I couldn't get to sleep till like half 1, so that probably doesn't help.

@crazyfool1 Spooky! That's a frustrating rationalisation your Mum has carried out (no offence).

have a think about how busy the pubs haven't been ... and you might realise that its far from just you ....

[Ozanne]

1 minute ago, Zoo Music Girl said:

Oh yes I get that you haven't fallen out over it, just saying try to avoid letting it get to that point as I think that wil make you feel worse.

Thanks, I'll try not too. 

Good point @crazyfool1

[MrZigster]

I'm feeling like going out to the pub tonight. Stupid idea I'm thinking, but the feeling is somewhat overwhelming me. I passed a half empty one earlier this afternoon and had a (seemingly) safe swift one. Bit late in the day now mind.

[funkychick2007]

Where is the sunshine? Everything always feels better when the sun is  shining even the difficult days!☀️

[Crazyfool01]

3 minutes ago, funkychick2007 said:

Where is the sunshine? Everything always feels better when the sun is  shining even the difficult days!☀️

cricket has restarted thats it now .... actually I thought I saw the weekend was warming up ... 

[funkychick2007]

Cricket season started tht will be it! Fingers crossed it does Warm up next week! Ive changed my leave from today and tomorrow to next week now!!! Crazyfool1 yiu will be cold with the new hair cut!! Maybe we shud have all waited for haircuts!! 

[Crazyfool01]

1 minute ago, funkychick2007 said:

Cricket season started tht will be it! Fingers crossed it does Warm up next week! Ive changed my leave from today and tomorrow to next week now!!! Crazyfool1 yiu will be cold with the new hair cut!! Maybe we shud have all waited for haircuts!! 

im hot blooded ... life of working in fridges and freezers means I dont really feel the cold, so alls good and it means I dont overheat so much at work wearing the damn shield ...will be glad when I feel its ok to remove that at work   

[guypjfreak]

I feel like that bloke on TV telling us we can eat for half the price should have said something about the music industry.. Something along the lines of half price festival tickets for those that want to go next year.... Because believe me there are some people that are saying they will not be going to any festivals next year unless we have a vaccine.. I'm not one of them 

[Ryan1984]

43 minutes ago, guypjfreak said:

I feel like that bloke on TV telling us we can eat for half the price should have said something about the music industry.. Something along the lines of half price festival tickets for those that want to go next year.... Because believe me there are some people that are saying they will not be going to any festivals next year unless we have a vaccine.. I'm not one of them 

The music industry ‘roadmap’ will come from the culture secretary sometime ‘this week’.