Things that ur happy about

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I really want a human skull, but in that I'd want it to be the skull of a person who was happy I had it.

I recall going to a rather posh fancy dress dinner many years ago. One of my mates turned up (as a Shakespeare character) with a human skull (he was studying medecine at the time) and plonked it down in amongst the fine spread that the couple who were having the party had laid on. He then proceeded to take off the top of the skull to reveal his tobacco and Rizzla papers and immediately set about rolling one up. The woman of the house was not pleased.Not pleased at all.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

Not sure why, but I'm feeling happy today. I have a job interview later this afternoon and all last nights agitation about it's arrival has just left me. Must be the drugs kicking in!

[Essex_George]

Not sure why, but I'm feeling happy today. I have a job interview later this afternoon and all last nights agitation about it's arrival has just left me. Must be the drugs kicking in!

Are you going for a Trainspotting type of interview?

[Spindles]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPKhhne8mCs

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPKhhne8mCs

Hello Spindles. Well, you'll be pleased to hear that I did indeed go into the interview on drugs. I didn't opt for speed though. I went for something that made me much more mellow. However I was sweating profusely, which they must have thought odd as none of the three of them were experiencing the same.

[Spindles]

Brilliant!

[Bisque]

I'm very happy to be my best friends usher, my other best friend beat me to being best man as he's his twin!

However... Parents have offered my best friend & his fiancee a weekend in East Wittering at their cottage on the beach or a weekend trip on their boat (I've got to skipper it) & I'd like to take them to Guernsey/Jersey if they pay for fuel costs...

I'd happily take them away but is it a bit weird I'll be on their pre-honey moon?

Plus I would like an extra deck hand to help with ropes (one for bow, one for stern). Wedding is in Sept so they can only take advantage of the offers over summer.

Some advice from you guys would be nice!?

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I'm very happy to be my best friends usher, my other best friend beat me to being best man as he's his twin!

However... Parents have offered my best friend & his fiancee a weekend in East Wittering at their cottage on the beach or a weekend trip on their boat (I've got to skipper it) & I'd like to take them to Guernsey/Jersey if they pay for fuel costs...

I'd happily take them away but is it a bit weird I'll be on their pre-honey moon?

Plus I would like an extra deck hand to help with ropes (one for bow, one for stern). Wedding is in Sept so they can only take advantage of the offers over summer.

Some advice from you guys would be nice!?

Bring another mate along that they also are comfortable with.

An alternative would be to hook up with a prosser from a local dock bar and bring her along. I'm sure the betrothed couple would be besides themselves with delight at your well considered action.

[Bisque]

I was considering taking his twin as the extra deck hand but he is cumsly beyond belief! I have also considered my missus but she gets a bit flustered when I've asked her to do mooring & lock ropes so ideally I'd like her & his twin to come along... Perhaps us three doing our own thing & leaving the newly engaged to their own?

Its only a 43ft boat. Is this a good idea or is it ok as its pre-honey moon?

[Bisque]

An alternative would be to hook up with a prosser from a local dock bar and bring her along.

We do not go to local dock bars, just yacht clubs

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I was considering taking his twin as the extra deck hand but he is cumsly beyond belief! I have also considered my missus but she gets a bit flustered when I've asked her to do mooring & lock ropes so ideally I'd like her & his twin to come along... Perhaps us three doing our own thing & leaving the newly engaged to their own?

Its only a 43ft boat. Is this a good idea or is it ok as its pre-honey moon?

Taking two other people would do the trick nicely in my opinion. The people you mention sound like ideal candidates.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

We do not go to local dock bars, just yacht clubs

I've never been to a yacht club in all my travels. One of my gay mates has. He ended up picking up some bloke at a yacht club disco and having sex with him on the pier. Only the pair of them hadn't noticed that dawn had broken and there had been a load of on lookers staring in their direction.

[Bisque]

I "sail" power boats & used to work as cabin crew for Virgin Atlantic. I'm now in the Royal Navy.

Homosexuality is my best friend. Never say never my friend. x

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I "sail" power boats & used to work as cabin crew for Virgin Atlantic. I'm now in the Royal Navy.

Homosexuality is my best friend. Never say never my friend. x

Well the thing is that I've never been sexually attracted to a man in all my 48 years. I recognise men who have beauty, but it kind of stops there. I do have a complete shed load of gay mates though, and have been to more gay bars and clubs than you can shake a stick at. Never once was I inclined to cop off with a bloke. Just like you know you are gay, I know I am straight. I'm happy to hear that you embrace your homosexuality as a friend though. Too many people are crippled with their perceived inability to accept their sexuality. Hope life on the high seas is treating you well.

[Spindles]

Too many people are crippled with their perceived inability to accept their sexuality.

Damn right and well put. It's bad enough that others drag people down over who they are attracted to without people doing it to themselves. Live free and love who you want, even if it's only for an evening

[eFestivals]

Damn right and well put. It's bad enough that others drag people down over who they are attracted to without people doing it to themselves. Live free and love who you want, even if it's only for an evening

unless you're a paedo, where instead you'll be hounded to the ends of the earth.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

unless you're a paedo, where instead you'll be hounded to the ends of the earth.

I feel sorry for paedo's. That is, I feel sorry for them up until the point whereby they get child porn and the next step of actually physically abusing a child themselves. I mean, it must be a desire you are born with like any sexuality. That to me is really getting the shit end of the stick.

[feral chile]

I feel sorry for paedo's. That is, I feel sorry for them up until the point whereby they get child porn and the next step of actually physically abusing a child themselves. I mean, it must be a desire you are born with like any sexuality. That to me is really getting the shit end of the stick.

yes, it must be really bad to discover you're attracted to kids. The danger is though, I would imagine, that as the general population reviles them, and they get marginalised, they'll seek out others with similar persuasions and then feel normalised, and entitled to act on their sexuality?

Maybe, I don't know. What I do know is the kneejerk reaction they get will prevent them from publicly seeking help. It's bad enough with mental health problems.

[feral chile]

I'm chuffed today, I've been told unofficially that I was successful in my application to become a union rep. It's been posted on the union website, so it must be true

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

The danger is though, I would imagine, that as the general population reviles them, and they get marginalised, they'll seek out others with similar persuasions and then feel normalised, and entitled to act on their sexuality?

I guess there must be some truth in that. That said, when a paedophile takes that step to give into their desires then they must consciously know at a deep level that they are crossing a boundary like few others. It's that and subsequent points I object to. It's at that point when they become so selfish as to be truly vulgar.

Maybe, I don't know. What I do know is the kneejerk reaction they get will prevent them from publicly seeking help. It's bad enough with mental health problems.

If they go to their GP about it then surely presumably their confidentiality will be maintained as long as they haven't acted on their impulses yet? The GP could then guide them to more appropriate help. That said, I remember a story about one paedophile who had repeatedly asked for help about his urges and wasn't seen about them. He went on to abuse a child and then kill himself because of the guilt he felt about it. I really felt for that bloke when I read his story. He'd done the right thing. He'd recognised his problem and faught as hard as he could against it.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I'm chuffed today, I've been told unofficially that I was successful in my application to become a union rep. It's been posted on the union website, so it must be true

Nice one feral. From what I can gather from on here I'd say you will make a fine union rep. Keep the faith.

[feral chile]

Thanks both. We're crying out for caseworkers, so hopefully I can fight the good fight.

[feral chile]

I guess there must be some truth in that. That said, when a paedophile takes that step to give into their desires then they must consciously know at a deep level that they are crossing a boundary like few others. It's that and subsequent points I object to. It's at that point when they become so selfish as to be truly vulgar.

If they go to their GP about it then surely presumably their confidentiality will be maintained as long as they haven't acted on their impulses yet? The GP could then guide them to more appropriate help. That said, I remember a story about one paedophile who had repeatedly asked for help about his urges and wasn't seen about them. He went on to abuse a child and then kill himself because of the guilt he felt about it. I really felt for that bloke when I read his story. He'd done the right thing. He'd recognised his problem and faught as hard as he could against it.

I think their confidentiality would be maintained, but I've always wondered how they can even face admitting it to themselves. I can't begin to imagine what it must be like to be a totally ordinary person, pleasant and kind, and then find that you're attracted to vulnerable people, and that therefore you're dangerous. You'd think it was something you'd totally repress.

I have problems admitting much less serious flaws to myself. We all want to like ourselves as people.

Edited February 26, 2014 by feral chile

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I can't begin to imagine what it must be like to be a totally ordinary person, pleasant and kind, and then find that you're attracted to vulnerable people, and that therefore you're dangerous.

A totally horrific nightmare I'd have thought.

On a seperate note I wonder if paedophiles have much stronger labidos than the average. If they do, then this could possibly go someway to explaining why some of them take that fateful step into abuse. Also, if this is the case then presumably there's medication available to quell matters. I suppose this would only work on the physical side of things though, and the brain would carry on thinking the same thoughts as it had been doing. I guess there's been better brains than mine try to work this all out. It's a very complex issue.

[feral chile]

A totally horrific nightmare I'd have thought.

On a seperate note I wonder if paedophiles have much stronger labidos than the average. If they do, then this could possibly go someway to explaining why some of them take that fateful step into abuse. Also, if this is the case then presumably there's medication available to quell matters. I suppose this would only work on the physical side of things though, and the brain would carry on thinking the same thoughts as it had been doing. I guess there's been better brains than mine try to work this all out. It's a very complex issue.

Yes, I'm out of touch with research on this now, I know it used to be thought that chemical castration was not only against their human rights, but also ineffective, for precisely that reason. It didn't get rid of desire. Whether that's still the case, I don't know. Just about every prescribed drug seems to affect libido these days.