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[Keziah]

(Appolagies for the essay, and i know this makes me sound like a bi*ch, but im not, honest )... so a friend of mine is getting married on the friday afternoon/evening of glastonbury and i am expected, (i mean invited) to attend her wedding & thing on sat lunch... this leaves me with a bit of a dilema. i REALLY want to go to glastonbury, especially as there will be a break next year, and it is my favourite place in the world!

Now i dont actually have a ticket yet, because i have been trying to come up with a solution, i dont know what to do...

I could try to buy a ticket in the resale, (and if i dont get one its fate telling me not to be such a sh*te friend, and begrugingly attend when i would rather be at a festival). or if i do get one then im thinking i could hop it down on the sat afternoon, which seems a good idea and probably doable as i live quite close, but, its quite a lot of money for 1 night right!? my problem with this is that id feel so selfish taking another full week festival goers ticket, especially as i have been going since 2005,(i know that this would be my last year for a while, which is another reason i cant bare not going, i find it to be crazily sentimental that i could have started and finished with coldplay). i worry that if i do get a ticket, i would be wasting its potential from a first timer with a chance at exploring and opening there mind to an amazing place and experience .

or i could try to get a friend who lives near the village to get me a sunday ticket, id miss the sat night but at least i could go for a little bit, but knowing my luck that plan probably wont work out, as i dont know how many he can get (he will probably be going)/ if he is allowed to at all? probably not, + if he cant get me one then i have no ticket. Or should i just simply not go this year?

Thanks for reading my rant, i dont know what to do, im selfish, its gutting, f*ing friends!lol. x

[Polwhirl]

You should defo try and get a ticket in the re sale. I'd rather go to Glasto than a wedding.

[dingbat2]

Do it the other way round, go to glasto and then pop out to go to the wedding. You will still be at glasto for 4 days. Hotw far away do you live? You can always drive back to glaso sat night so only miss sat night. Everybody's happy

[Alcatraz]

dingbat2, on 17 February 2011 - 08:54 PM, said:

Do it the other way round, go to glasto and then pop out to go to the wedding. You will still be at glasto for 4 days. Hotw far away do you live? You can always drive back to glaso sat night so only miss sat night. Everybody's happy

Yup, I remember a very regular poster do this a few years ago. Said i worked perfectly

[Greenish]

how far away is the wedding?  arrive wednesday, leave friday. return saturday, leave monday. is that an option?

[LusciousLucy]

There is another thread that was knocking about on here or Questions a day or two ago with someone else in a similar situation. Wedding on the Saturday in London. Hopefully aforementioned gentleman is now sorted with figuring out the train travel and the friend whose wedding it is happy to let said friend with G ticket not have to stick around for the afterparty as there is a much bigger and better party with 175,000 guests in Somerset he really should be at!

[halvin]

I've left site for a wedding and I wouldn't do it again. I was knackered for the whole so I couldn't enjoy it (it didn't help that we left camp at 7am and had a three mile walk to the car) and I couldn't help feeling that I was missing out. People have since told me that I was noticeably out of it and asked if I was on something, which I wasn't but it might have helped if I was. There were a couple of people that came to the same wedding from Glasto and they seemed to cope perfectly well.

The plus sides are that you come back fresh-as-a-daisy and your photo set goes Glasto/wedding/Glasto like this.

OP: get a ticket if you can and don't go to the wedding. If they were good friends they'd have known to leave that weekend free. What they definitely won't want is you taking up a seat at their reception, eating the food, drinking the drink and costing them money when you're not enjoying any of it.

[Buglet]

Given that you choose to pose this question to a bunch of people whose only common characteristic is that they're already giddy about an event that's still 4 months away I think we both know what advice you want don't we ?  
Stop flagellating yourself and buy a bloody ticket!!

[Okky]

Ditch the wedding.

[sisterofmercy]

dingbat2, on 17 February 2011 - 08:54 PM, said:

Do it the other way round, go to glasto and then pop out to go to the wedding. You will still be at glasto for 4 days. Hotw far away do you live? You can always drive back to glaso sat night so only miss sat night. Everybody's happy

This.

I know people who have done that before and it wasn't too much hassle.

[FunkyDenz]

Buglet, on 18 February 2011 - 12:29 AM, said:

Given that you choose to pose this question to a bunch of people whose only common characteristic is that they're already giddy about an event that's still 4 months away I think we both know what advice you want don't we ?  
Stop flagellating yourself and buy a bloody ticket!!

Totally agree with this.
If you do get a ticket, then talk to your friend about either attending the Friday ceremony or the Saturday reception. Explain that you can't do both, and ask them to choose which one is more important for you to attend.

[greenfairy43]

How about going to a different festival, there are other's out there you know.
Then you can be there at your friend's special, once in a lifetime day.

Just a thought.....

Edited by greenfairy43, 18 February 2011 - 08:41 AM.

[russycarps]

Say you will attend the wedding but actually go to Glastonbury.

When your friend asks why you werent at the wedding, pretend to be upset and outraged and say that you WERE at the wedding and that you cant believe she cant remember chatting to you. Perhaps start crying at this point.

The bride will have spoken to so many people on her wedding day that it will all have been one big blur so she will start to doubt herself

win win

[Icewulf]

Can't you just persuade them to bring the wedding to Glastonbury..?


Also I notice you say one of your options is to just come down on the Saturday...
Why JUST the Saturday. Why not the Saturday and Sunday??

Edited by Icewulf, 18 February 2011 - 09:24 AM.

[Wanderlei]

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When your friend asks why you werent at the wedding, pretend to be upset and outraged and say that you WERE at the wedding and that you cant believe she cant remember chatting to you. Perhaps start crying at this point.

Good point. When couples are getting married it's all them them them and they don't know/care who was at the wedding. Selfish gits! OR you could go to Glasto with a webcam and make an appearence via satelite like at those awards shows when big celebs can't be arsed to turn up.... but then again the couple would hate that because you'd be taking attention away from them. Selfish gits! Just be a selfish git and go to Glastonbury. Everyone is being selfish so it all evens out. I mean, come on, how selfish is it to have a wedding and expect everyone to take time out of their life just to go and watch them take a vow which actually means nothing?

Wand out.

[Filthy]

Tell them you've arranged a live satelite link to worthy farm and all they need to do to access it is to put on the BBC's coverage. Give them a list of bands you'll be watching in advance so they know where to look

[dingbat2]

Buglet, on 18 February 2011 - 12:29 AM, said:

Given that you choose to pose this question to a bunch of people whose only common characteristic is that they're already giddy about an event that's still 4 months away I think we both know what advice you want don't we ?  
Stop flagellating yourself and buy a bloody ticket!!

This is true, but I think the title of this thread is wrong. On the basis that Keziah is similarly a member of this forum, the subject shouldnt read "I don't know what to do". It should be "I am desparate to go, I will go, convince me its the right thing to do, and tell me how I can do it!"

[jeffie]

dingbat2, on 18 February 2011 - 10:31 AM, said:

This is true, but I think the title of this thread is wrong. On the basis that Keziah is similarly a member of this forum, the subject shouldnt read "I don't know what to do". It should be "I am desparate to go, I will go, convince me its the right thing to do, and tell me how I can do it!"

ha ha

[Woppa]

greenfairy43, on 18 February 2011 - 08:40 AM, said:

How about going to a different festival, there are other's out there you know.
Then you can be there at your friend's special, once in a lifetime day.

Just a thought.....

Once in a lifetime? It's a wedding.

OP: I say miss this one and when your mate has divorced and is getting married again, go to that one.

[parsonjack]

i think your decision needs to be at least in some part based on how close a friend you're talking about, and whether you will be missed if you dont go.

if your friend is not much more than an aquaintance, and a friend amongst many others, then your presence is not likely to be really missed and you can make your excuses with a clear conscience.

if however your friend is a long standing one whom you have known for many years, been close to, and who will be upset by your absence then the honourable thing would be to grin and bear it and go to the wedding. there will be more GF's...but your absence from the wedding may linger in her mind longer than your thought that you missed G2011. Your conscience will again be clear.

if your friend lies somewhere between the two then look at the option of nipping out for the wedding further.  you'll get to enjoy most of the fest, make your freind happy that you have made the effort to come along, and it'll be a good talking point.  providing everyone is happy you'll still have a clear conscience.

life is full of tough decisions, but sometimes you need to make sacrifices to be certain that its the right decison for everyone concerned.

your reward will be the satifying feeling that you did the right thing. hope you make the right choice.