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[FiestyOne]

Hi all,

Wouldnt normally do this but you lot seem a helpful bunch from what i've read in the past so here goes...

I'm off to Glasto for what will be the 3rd year running with my currently ex BF - things havent been great for a while but we've decided to still go as friends...

Glasto is very special to him as hes been going for years and also for me as I had never been until I went with him so its our little holiday together. Anyway I really want him back and I wanted to make it really special this time, this is probably the last chance I have of working things out as he has said if things were better between us we would still be together, but I know it cant carry on forever.

Sooo im looking for suggestions as to how to make this Glasto really special and have a brilliant week with no fallings out...I love him very much and I want to go back next year together

[youngatheart]

FiestyOne, on May 16 2010, 11:39 AM, said:

Hi all,

Wouldnt normally do this but you lot seem a helpful bunch from what i've read in the past so here goes...

I'm off to Glasto for what will be the 3rd year running with my currently ex BF - things havent been great for a while but we've decided to still go as friends...

Glasto is very special to him as hes been going for years and also for me as I had never been until I went with him so its our little holiday together. Anyway I really want him back and I wanted to make it really special this time, this is probably the last chance I have of working things out as he has said if things were better between us we would still be together, but I know it cant carry on forever.

Sooo im looking for suggestions as to how to make this Glasto really special and have a brilliant week with no fallings out...I love him very much and I want to go back next year together

easy dont go..

if he loves you he will miss you other wise he will have a great time without baggage..

[let's 'ave it!!!]

plenty of shagging in the tent

[IamChappu]

Just try to relax & enjoy being at Glastonbury together.  If you try too hard, it might make it worse.  If you're meant to get back together, you will.

Hope things do work out for you xx

[sums98]

Get him drunk....

Then make your move

[younggiftedandblack]

It's only worth getting back with him if you both have a clear idea of what you can do differently this time to make the relationship work.
Whether you get back together or not i strongly recommend lots and lots of sex in that stuffy little tent.

[4AssedMonkey]

Hmmm.  At the risk of being shot down for this I think you should have the benefit of an honest blokes perspective on this.

I don't know why you broke up as a couple but if he really loved you, he wouldn't have gone along with it.  It's clear you are the one who wants to make this a relationship again and not him.  It takes two to make a relationship and if he's not on board then as a bloke he may well see your (for want of a better word) desperation and end up using you for casual sex and favours.  Men can be horrible in this way as we can completely separate out emotional and logical brains.

You need to be clear about what your goal is here.  If you want a long term, loving relationship where you are on equal standing then you need to be yourself and hope he realises that he loves you.  If he doesn't, then you may end up as partners again but will the partnership be on a basis that is enough for you?  I'm guessing not.  Get rid, take the pain and move on.

So I think you should just be who you are, do what you want, don't follow him like a love sick puppy and be prepared for it to not work out.

[whisty]

4AssedMonkey, on May 16 2010, 12:15 PM, said:

So I think you should just be who you are, do what you want, don't follow him like a love sick puppy and be prepared for it to not work out.

Just that  ^^^

[LondonTom]

Deep Throat and Ass to Mouth should do the trick

[TheBoyInTheBubble]

Have you tried a pregnancy scare?  A few girls have tried that to dodge past my "commitment issues".  Just don't do it by text as he'll delete the text and your number and relax.

[ukslim]

I'd ignore most of this advice. We don't know nearly enough about you, him or your circumstances.

Have you considered going to Relate? It's not just for married people. If he's not willing to even go for a single session, that would tell you a lot.

http://www.relate.or...home/index.html

[mouth]

feisty one, sorry to hear this, but like people have said, you cant base having a great glasto on getting back with your ex. Also your putting so much pressure on yourself to have a good time and get him back that wou are in theroy just setting yourself up for a massive fall. Go to the fest, take your own tent and do it all on your terms. Glastonbury is a wonderful place and you cant let this spoil your fun. who knows maybe if he sees you relaxed and enjoying it without him he'll realise what he's missing. Just dont let him ruin what for a lot of poeple is the best weekend of the year. i doubt he's worth it.

[dirty_dog]

take one up the shitter. he'll never look at you the same way but he'll always come back for more.
hope this helps

[muddyslingbax]

FiestyOne, on May 16 2010, 11:39 AM, said:

Hi all,

Wouldnt normally do this but you lot seem a helpful bunch from what i've read in the past so here goes...

I'm off to Glasto for what will be the 3rd year running with my currently ex BF - things havent been great for a while but we've decided to still go as friends...

Glasto is very special to him as hes been going for years and also for me as I had never been until I went with him so its our little holiday together. Anyway I really want him back and I wanted to make it really special this time, this is probably the last chance I have of working things out as he has said if things were better between us we would still be together, but I know it cant carry on forever.

Sooo im looking for suggestions as to how to make this Glasto really special and have a brilliant week with no fallings out...I love him very much and I want to go back next year together

Make it special by just being the person that he used to be in love with / might still be.
putting on some extra's to make it 'special' (and this includes 'taking it up the shitter' as advised by that Dirty Dog) ain't gonna do it, in my opinion.

[FiestyOne]

Thanks everyone for your suggestions Unfortunately I wont be taking on board some of them (not going to try the pregnancy one, im not 15 and i'd be looking at Jeremy Kyle if that was my style!)

The main problem for me is not getting the time to talk to him about us and I have a lot of other things going on at the moment such as exams and work and associated stresses which I have taken out on him a lot. I know Glasto isnt a quick fix and theres no guarantee that when we go back home afterwards it wont all go back out the window...but while were there i'm thinking of ways I can be that person Muddyslingbax suggested as thats exactly what hes said to me

I was just thinking that Glasto would be a time where theres nothing else going on i.e. i can forget about all the stress of the outside world for a week. Not going isnt an option!

Any ideas for places we could visit/suggestions for things we could do together

[Jackmypie]

LondonTom, on May 16 2010, 12:20 PM, said:

Deep Throat and Ass to Mouth should do the trick

HAHA you cheeky monkey

[Rufus Gwertigan]

FiestyOne, on May 16 2010, 01:11 PM, said:

Thanks everyone for your suggestions Unfortunately I wont be taking on board some of them (not going to try the pregnancy one, im not 15 and i'd be looking at Jeremy Kyle if that was my style!)

The main problem for me is not getting the time to talk to him about us and I have a lot of other things going on at the moment such as exams and work and associated stresses which I have taken out on him a lot. I know Glasto isnt a quick fix and theres no guarantee that when we go back home afterwards it wont all go back out the window...but while were there i'm thinking of ways I can be that person Muddyslingbax suggested as thats exactly what hes said to me

I was just thinking that Glasto would be a time where theres nothing else going on i.e. i can forget about all the stress of the outside world for a week. Not going isnt an option!

Any ideas for places we could visit/suggestions for things we could do together

I am shit at giving advice, but to be fair I would be concentrating more on sorting these stresses out so that you can give him more time in the real world first. Whilst it seems a nice idea at Glastonbury it seems a pointless exercise if you return home to the same old shit.

I believe that you should be yourself all the time, and not feel that you can only do that at a festival.

[twig14]

Don't go looking for time to talk, no bloke wants that when they're expecting a weekend of freedom and fun. If he misses out on something he really wanted to do because he was thinking about something heavy you said or feeling pressure, he'll just blame you.

Have a good time, don't put pressure on, show him the two of you can have fun without the need to have a serious heart-to-heart. Be fun, spontaneous and non-judgemental. Let him do his own thing, but with you there to have a laugh with.

If he wants to do something you're not keen on, don't screw up your nose and look disapproving, or try to change his mind, just say 'that's cool, I'm going to do this but we'll hang out again later'. And then go and enjoy whatever it is and don't worry about him.

If he comes home feeling like he had the best weekend of his life, you can then have the serious talk back in the real world. He needs to see all the reasons why you're the best person to have fun with, and none of the reasons why sometimes it could be hard work. At Glastonbury no one wants real world hassles.

[FiestyOne]

Rufus Gwertigan, on May 16 2010, 01:25 PM, said:

I am shit at giving advice, but to be fair I would be concentrating more on sorting these stresses out so that you can give him more time in the real world first. Whilst it seems a nice idea at Glastonbury it seems a pointless exercise if you return home to the same old shit.

I believe that you should be yourself all the time, and not feel that you can only do that at a festival.

Thats true. Im not very good at dealing with stress and while exams will be over by the end of the month then something else will probably pop up!

Im not looking to have the 'big talk' at Glasto, just want to make sure it really is the best week ever! Hes the type of bloke that would appreciate something romantic and fun and spontaneous, any suggestions as to how I can surprise him? I usually go for a wander on the Wednesday while hes putting the tent up (too many cooks/im a man i can put this up on my own) so is there a way I can start the week off in a good way ??

[TheBoyInTheBubble]

FiestyOne, on May 16 2010, 01:51 PM, said:

Thats true. Im not very good at dealing with stress and while exams will be over by the end of the month then something else will probably pop up!

Im not looking to have the 'big talk' at Glasto, just want to make sure it really is the best week ever! Hes the type of bloke that would appreciate something romantic and fun and spontaneous, any suggestions as to how I can surprise him? I usually go for a wander on the Wednesday while hes putting the tent up (too many cooks/im a man i can put this up on my own) so is there a way I can start the week off in a good way ??

"Look, I'll pop the tent up and sort out here - why don't you go and find us a couple of drinks for when I'm finished"

That would be special!!!