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[just-spence]

last year just me and my mate went to glasto .. there was supposed to be loads but in the end only me and him sorted our tickets out .. 2 weeks before the festival my mate spilt up with his girlfriend ..

his girlfriend happend to be my sister and they met at glastonbury the year before    and i say mate but this is my best mate .. now i was not happy about them getting together but i couldnt do anything about it so i just said i was happy and as long as if they split then they wouldnt get all narky and get me stuck in the middle .....

skip fwd a year and we get back to glaso last year .. we go and have a good time but my mate is just not into it ... and i start getting pissed of with him cuz all he wants to do is hang around the campsite and moans about being tired so by sunday morning id had enough and say lets pack up and go home  

when we get home i then find out my sister had been txting him all weekend we were at glasto so then i understood what was wrong ..  

now this year at glasto iv managed to get most of my family to go to glasto and loads of mates ... many of them for the first time , my sister and my best mate are also going and its going to be the first time they have seen each other after a pretty rough breakup almost a year ago , he has known since oct that she is going but after talking to him lastnight im starting to stress abit after him saying he carnt promise he will be cool when he sees her .. im not really after advise just wanted to get it off my chest
but if anyone has got a suggestion ...............................also english lessons as well  

Edited by just-spence, 28 April 2010 - 03:07 PM.

[StevieMcK]

I don't see the problem if there are a large group of you going.  Everyone will split up into groups once you get there and I reckon most people leave any attitudes at the gate when they go to the festival.  Just chill out and don't stress about it.  Its not worth it  

[ivan]

You can only fight your own wars , so just make sure you have a good festival and if need be
get off your own away from it all.

Years back some friends of mine got together at Glasto , despite one of their partners coming
along.

The injured party finally guessed something was wrong when I rolled back to my tent at about
7.00 am and he was waiting in his chair outside for her.  As I had come home on my own he
guessed I was not carrying on with his wife

  It all came out that morning ! and the shit hit the fan !!!

  

[APC]

Beat him to death in his sleep with a mallet, on the first night. That'll teach him, then you won't have to worry about him whinging. You could put him in a chair and sit him in front of Coldplay or U2 and noone would even notice.

[lucyginger]

I say just leave them to it if it gets tricky. That may sound harsh but they need to sort it out between themselves.

Dont let it spoil your holiday!

[twig14]

Padlock them in a tent together on Wednesday and refuse to let them out until they can be civil.

[APC]

twig14, on Apr 28 2010, 04:25 PM, said:

Padlock them in a tent together on Wednesday and refuse to let them out until they can be civil.

Throw in some scorpions to err on the side of caution.

Edited by APC, 28 April 2010 - 03:26 PM.

[just-spence]

this forums never fails to make me smile ... although alot of the time those smiles are coverd with a face palm  

[Savy]

APC, on Apr 28 2010, 04:26 PM, said:

Throw in some scorpions to err on the side of caution.

But for God's sake don't stand around waiting or you may hear sounds you don't wanna be hearing from a tent containing your best mate and your sister...oh and some scorpions  

[Langdale Wolf]

I've got a similar problem.

A good mate of mine got together with a good mate of my wife a few years back - it didn't work out and it ended VERY bitterly (on her part - he's useless but means well, she needs reassuring about things and lost it a bit).

They haven't seen each other since, I can't mention his name around her - but they're both coming to Glasto this year and will be camping with me and about 10 others.

They've both moved on and both have new partners (who will also be coming).

He isn't fussed she's coming and will be fine with it.

She isn't too pleased he's coming but I've said I want to spend time with them both (though not at the same time if there'll be trouble.)

Basically, it's nothing to do with me and I'm keeping well out of it.  I refuse to walk on egg shells all weekend just because she has a problem with him.

There's just too much to think about without considering a petty squabble between two mutual friends.  I love them both to bits but I am not getting involved in this.

Be firm and if need be - be selfish.  It ain't your mess to clear up.  Concentrate on enjoying the festival.

[Negative_Creep]

Mate, it's up to all parties involved to be a mature and realise that if they have any "unfestivable!" feelings then keep them to themselves until after.

Plus if your in a big group you can go missing!

[APC]

Savy, on Apr 28 2010, 04:29 PM, said:

But for God's sake don't stand around waiting or you may hear sounds you don't wanna be hearing from a tent containing your best mate and your sister...oh and some scorpions  

I presume you mean a pair of "aaaarrrgggghhhhhs"'s?

[russycarps]

just-spence, on Apr 28 2010, 04:05 PM, said:

last year just me and my mate went to glasto .. there was supposed to be loads but in the end only me and him sorted our tickets out .. 2 weeks before the festival my mate spilt up with his girlfriend ..

his girlfriend happend to be my sister and they met at glastonbury the year before    and i say mate but this is my best mate .. now i was not happy about them getting together but i couldnt do anything about it so i just said i was happy and as long as if they split then they wouldnt get all narky and get me stuck in the middle .....

skip fwd a year and we get back to glaso last year .. we go and have a good time but my mate is just not into it ... and i start getting pissed of with him cuz all he wants to do is hang around the campsite and moans about being tired so by sunday morning id had enough and say lets pack up and go home  

when we get home i then find out my sister had been txting him all weekend we were at glasto so then i understood what was wrong ..  

now this year at glasto iv managed to get most of my family to go to glasto and loads of mates ... many of them for the first time , my sister and my best mate are also going and its going to be the first time they have seen each other after a pretty rough breakup almost a year ago , he has known since oct that she is going but after talking to him lastnight im starting to stress abit after him saying he carnt promise he will be cool when he sees her .. im not really after advise just wanted to get it off my chest
but if anyone has got a suggestion ...............................also english lessons as well  

PM me your sisters phone number mate. I'll give here such a sausaging on the first night I assure you she wont give your mate a second thought

[DougalMcGuire]

APC, on Apr 28 2010, 04:32 PM, said:

I presume you mean a pair of "aaaarrrgggghhhhhs"'s?

He's throwing  2 pirates in there as well?

[oyyouno]

russycarps, on Apr 28 2010, 04:39 PM, said:

PM me your sisters phone number mate. I'll give here such a sausaging on the first night I assure you she wont give your mate a second thought

wow

[just-spence]

russycarps, on Apr 28 2010, 04:39 PM, said:

PM me your sisters phone number mate. I'll give here such a sausaging on the first night I assure you she wont give your mate a second thought

  feel free mate .. just make sure you have your name tag on at the efest meet  

Edited by just-spence, 28 April 2010 - 03:47 PM.

[twig14]

We had a similar problem in '05, in a massive group which included old school friends, two of which had been together, broken up messily a couple of years before and hadn't really spoken since.

The girl was with her new fella and all of his mates. A few of us had already met him and them and we'd got on well so made plans to camp together.  

It can't have been easy for either of them, and I know from talking to both after that they weren't thrilled with being around each other at the time. Those of us caught in the middle who knew them both really well made sure we spent a day with each of them so as not being seen to be taking sides.

To their credit, they were mature enough to realise arguing would just bring everyone else down so they stayed out of each others way as much as possible, and were polite to each other on the few occasions when they had to be - the girl didn't cop off with her new bloke in front of her ex, and the lad made a real effort to talk to the new bf, include him in rounds of drinks, that sort of thing.

[ivan]

russycarps, on Apr 28 2010, 04:39 PM, said:

PM me your sisters phone number mate. I'll give here such a sausaging on the first night I assure you she wont give your mate a second thought

I thought she did not.

Maybe you should offer your sister to his mate !

Then he would forget her !

[sums98]

Oh now best mates and sisters...its never going to be pretty after a break up...thus said I'm sure in a totally different enviroment things will be freindly enough...dont get involved...and defo dont take sides...in other words...just leave them to it.

[musiclove123]

Langdale Wolf, on Apr 28 2010, 04:31 PM, said:

I've got a similar problem.

A good mate of mine got together with a good mate of my wife a few years back - it didn't work out and it ended VERY bitterly (on her part - he's useless but means well, she needs reassuring about things and lost it a bit).

They haven't seen each other since, I can't mention his name around her - but they're both coming to Glasto this year and will be camping with me and about 10 others.

They've both moved on and both have new partners (who will also be coming).

He isn't fussed she's coming and will be fine with it.

She isn't too pleased he's coming but I've said I want to spend time with them both (though not at the same time if there'll be trouble.)

Basically, it's nothing to do with me and I'm keeping well out of it.  I refuse to walk on egg shells all weekend just because she has a problem with him.

There's just too much to think about without considering a petty squabble between two mutual friends.  I love them both to bits but I am not getting involved in this.

Be firm and if need be - be selfish.  It ain't your mess to clear up.  Concentrate on enjoying the festival.

If they both have new partners and moved on there shouldn't be a problem